My Exciting and Complicated Life

It’s Friday and i’m working at full speed. I feel so alive and inspired today. I feel like most of you missed the bubbly and the enthusiastic Ginger, and guess what?! I’m back!

I’m sorry that I have been such a downer lately. It’s probably because I felt like I had to fulfil so many expectations and obligations. I also felt like I wanted to please people that I loved, and that became so much to bear. At times, I felt I wasn’t giving enough and, sometimes also, I felt depressed because I felt I wasn’t getting enough in return. I formulated expectations in my head, when in fact, life is just simple. I think I overthought things and aimed too high, too soon, that I felt exhausted.

I realized though that it was mostly all ME
. I was the one putting so much pressure on myself. I wanted to achieve things quickly and successfully, that I lost the fun and adventurous Ginger along the way.

I was going through different animation shorts today and this was what inspired me and reminded me of myself.

On the Same Page

What I Love about my Life

What I love about my life is that it’s always fun and exciting. There is not a day that I don’t get to learn new things. I am not much of a reader, but I love talking to people. I know it’s such a far comparison, but talking to one person for me is a lot like reading a book. When I talk to people, I am always excited as I get to discover new things and learn from their experiences, perceptions and thoughts. This may be probably the reason why I love blogging, also. Blogging allows me to meet various kinds of people, and share things that I learn from their stories.

Moms-11

I love that I have so many ideas that I want to do and so many goals that I want to achieve. Here’s the thing, people. Never let other people say that you dream big. Do shoot for the stars and let go of your fear. How do I do it? How do I let go of that fear? I just do things, because I know that even if I fail, love will help me survive. People who love you will always be there for you, but even if you feel that you’re alone and no one gets your dream and ambitions, remember that you have enough love for yourself to get you by. Have faith (even if you don’t believe in God or the idea of a god) that their is a bigger plan to all of these things — that there is a higher purpose.

A Moderately Complicated Life

When people say that they don’t want a life of complication, I get it. Who would want drama in their lives? But in the same way, who would want to be doing things that you don’t love? Why would you give up your dreams or the person who truly makes you happy, when you have a chance at it and a chance with that person? Why would you purposely miss a bus ride when you know for sure that it will take you to Disneyland?

Life, in general and basically, is complicated. I’d give anything to know how to live every day “perfectly” (oh, that can be a super hero power that I’d wish for) and make perfectly, non-regrettable decisions, but I can’t. We all can’t because of this fact — we are only human.

I think we should aim for a moderately complicated life. It makes our life more interesting and worth living. I think what will make it moderately complicated is if we try to do things that we have always wanted to do, but were always scared to do. Sometimes, the thing that scares us the most is the thing that is good for us. We can make our lives moderately complicated yet fulfilling and exciting when we pursue our passion (yech! overrated phrase, I know… but really true, so I apologize if I had to say that).

My message for you today

Embrace life, because life is fun and exciting! This may be a bit extreme, but the lyrics of this song may be a weird kind of inspiration… 🙂 haha!

Just go and do things that you love and things that you have always wanted to try. If you fail, then c’est la vie!

I Saw my Life Differently

All of a sudden, I knew that I was going to live my life differently from now on.

As you may have noticed, I have less sponsored posts in my blog now (this year). I’m sure you all know that I have been earning through brands that advertise through the site, and I don’t keep this a secret. I share my business experiences in this blog, and there is no shame in admitting that I earn through blogging. In the last few years, I have set my eyes on trying to reach a lot of people and was hoping to follow the path of my idols, Marie Forleo and Natalie McNeil. Both women made it big by branding themselves as mentors and industry experts. Marie has her own B school and people from around the world attend it. Natalie McNeil has her site SheTakesontheWorld.com and was deemed by Forbes magazine as one of the sites for women entrepreneurs to visit.

So anyway, early last year, I took on a path similar to theirs. I launched GTV, my own channel where I talked about tips on how to start your own business. I also continued my Love the Leap program which is a 3 day course on entrepreneurship. I did business and brand coaching. Aside from that, I got contracts for brand endorsements, etc.

I love it, and I still do. But recently, I saw my life differently. I realized that now, I have other alternatives and sometimes, the best way I can help individuals pursue their dreams and achieve their personal and business goals, is if I focus on the my own businesses. I realized that ManilaWorkshops.com, LoveLearning.co and MemoryCrafters.com.ph all have noble causes of teaching the core value that every entrepreneur should have, which is the willingness to learn and the desire for self-improvement.

I also realized that through writing more about what I experienced and felt every day through my blogs and my social media accounts, I could do what I really enjoy doing, which is to have conversations with people.

This year, I am bent on making every minute count. I am bent on looking at every second, every minute of my life as something valuable — something that will mean something, something that will make a difference.

 

Why We Need to be Better People

As I scroll down through Facebook updates, I see one update of a lady who was there during that horrific night in France. After recounting the specifics of what had happened during the concert, she goes on with these words. Her words got to me. “There last thoughts were not on the animals who caused all this. It was thinking of the people they loved… Last night, the lives of many were forever changed and it is up to us to be better people, to live lives that the innocent victims of this tragedy dreamt about but sadly will now never be able to fulfill. – Isobel Bowdery”

I have not been in any situation like that and I couldn’t imagine what she had gone through. I doubt anyone of us would want to be in her situation, but I admire her for exposing what we should be thinking of right now. Yes, we may wonder about what is happening to this world — why is there so much violence, violence that even involves killing innocent people. Our hearts may even be filled with anger for those who did this. We may blame a lot of people for all of these things happening, but I think what this should be is more of a wake up call.

Better People

A wake up call for us to be better people.

Better does not necessarily mean that you need to change the world. Better does not mean running for office or seeking for a government position. Better does not mean inventing a life-changing surgery that may change the medical industry (sorry, I watch too much Grey’s Anatomy and Code Black downloads). It doesn’t even mean building a huge conglomerate, let alone a company.

Better, for me, just means being in love — in love with life, in love with living. Better means waking up everyday, loving ourselves and loving how living gives us the opportunity to enjoy and grow. Better means seeing yourself as valuable and capable of making a difference in this world, no matter how big or how small. Better means living with integrity, conviction, kindness and faith. It means seeing and upholding what is fair and just. It means loving yourself so that you can love others more. It means being kind to people and respecting what they believe in even if you don’t necessarily agree with them.

Better means that we just don’t thrive with people in our community, but we mingle and interact. We build relationships — relationships that strengthen the main core of our existence which is to love. We help each other achieve and grow, learn and love. We help them move on from past hurt, heartaches, hang-ups, depression, bullying and other negativity that they may have experienced. We help them achieve their fullest potential, by actively helping them out or by just being there as a friend.

Better means realizing that minute things that we can do will impact society in a big way if we constantly do it. We need to give more importance to living intentionally. If ever something tragic happens (I sincerely hope it doesn’t happen to any of us), we need to be able to say that we have lived and loved. We have done everything that we could have done with this precious life. We have been good people and we lived a good life.

Does Your Life Have Meaning?

It’s so tragic to see in the news that this Motel mogul and his pilot died yesterday. I hate seeing these kinds of things in the news, because I automatically think that they must be dear fathers to daughters and sons, and that their wives might be grieving or that they might have had some unfinished business to take care of. I continue to pray for the families of these two gentlemen and I continue to pray for those injured. I will also pray for their families, that they may stay strong.

News of this in this link: http://cnnphilippines.com/regional/2015/07/05/2-die-6-injured-in-helicopter-crash-in-Batangas.html

When you pass away, I know it’s a morbid topic, but oftentimes, these are the things that we fail to think about. These are even the things that will possibly and probably make us better individuals. A lot of us are content with what we have right now — but are these the things that you really want given this precious life? In my business coaching sessions, I ask people to list down dreams and wishes that they want to achieve within three years, and a lot of them have a hard time even listing them down. Have we become so jaded that even dreaming has become way too mechanical?

Does Your Life Have Meaning

I love contemplating. It sometimes becomes a bad habit that I tend to defocus from what I am supposed to do for the day (case in point, I was about to go through my daily tasks, but the sad news made me deviate from it and now I’m writing this blog). Today, at this very minute, I decided to focus on writing a list of what I should ask myself if I feel like my life is losing meaning.

1. Are you genuinely happy with what’s going on in your life?
This question may be vague, but I should start by asking myself this. We can be fooled as to what “genuinely happy” means because of what society dictates. If society dictates that we should be happy if we have a mom and a dad, we automatically believe that you can’t be happy with having a single parent. We are then considered “broken”. If society dictates that we should be happy if we have a huge house with a swimming pool, we automatically believe that we can’t be happy when live in a rented apartment with water coming in once in a blue moon. If society dictates that we should only be happy if we had a waist line as small as Marian Rivera’s (Did you know that she had a 19-inch waist line?), we couldn’t be happy if ours was at 30 inches and beyond.

But looking at those scenarios, why do we let society dictate and tell us when and what should make us happy? I have a lot of friends who were raised or who are raising children by themselves and their families are genuinely happy. They have the sweetest kids and their relationships are amazing! Contemplating on what will make us genuinely happy is something that we need to do. Personally, the main thing that will make me genuinely happy is to see that my daughter grows up to me God-fearing, independent and a compassionate person. Nothing will make me prouder.

2. If you were a student preparing for an exam, what is your reason for procrastinating? It may be something that you need to do.
I got this idea from one of the students of the Win in Life Program . I asked the 11 year old boy what he wanted to be when he grows up and he said that we wanted to be a game developer. He said, “If it’s something that you do when you procrastinate, then it must be something that you should do.” Wise words from such a young lad! He did have a point. What we should do every day is something that excites us. It should be something that we are always willing to spend hours on; no questions asked. Our friends and family will have a hard time stopping us from doing this thing since they will see that we are so passionate about it.

People often tell me that I tire myself too much with all of the things that I’m doing, but most of the things that I do is something that excites me. These are things that keep me awake at night, because I’m raring and daring to go at it first thing in the morning.

3. Are you making the world a better place? How would you make it a better place?
In one of the trips that we had as a family recently, I got teary-eyed while looking at the different magnificent places in the Philippines. If there are so many undiscovered place in the country that I live in, I bet there are even more undiscovered places in the entire world. I got teary eyed because I was thinking that each one of us, if we just realize that we could actually change the world in our own little way, we will live in a better, safer and healthier world. And yet, it saddened me to see that we don’t see that.

We are all superheroes, and my wish for us all is that we see that. Maybe identifying what we can do for the world is jumping too far ahead, but I really wish that after reading this article is that you get to see that we can change the world by contributing a little “something” every day. Be it following garbage disposal rules in the village or the condo where we stay in, or just by picking up trash that we see on the street, or by just being kind to a stranger, we can be an important asset to our community and to the world.

Those are the three questions that I will always and consistently ask myself when I feel lost and confused. Feel free to follow me and ask yourself the same questions. Does your life have meaning? What do you do every day that will make this world a better place? I’d love to hear your thoughts.