Why We Should Love Even when It Hurts — Sometimes.

Happy February, everyone! My next favorite month to December, and oh, October (since that’s my birth month), is February. I love February, because during this month, you can clearly see the honest-to-goodness feelings of people. A lot of extreme emotions this month will come into play. There will be a lot of love, lust (yup, just had to say that…haha!), pain, loneliness (love even when it hurts), finding new love, longing for past loves, and a whole lot more!

We have all expressed and felt all of these different emotions. When we were young and care-free, we couldn’t care less. We would love whoever we want to love and we would break-up with whoever we want to break-up with. Most of us didn’t see the “bigger picture”. We didn’t see who it was that we were hurting, because of our actions. We often didn’t see the repercussions of  the great love that we wanted to express. And love to us when we were young, was confined into that realm of romantic love.

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But now that we are all #adulting, we see different kinds of love. We see that love isn’t just about the love that you have for one special human being, whom you consider your soulmate. Love can mean love for one’s self. Love can mean loving your parents. Love can mean loving your sibling, relatives, a son, a daughter. Love can mean loving a friend, a business partner, a mentor, a co-worker. Love can also mean loving someone whom you have lost, or literally someone who is no longer with us.

Understanding love isn’t confined to the people to whom it is given. How it is given, when it is given, in what form it is given are interesting to see and look at, too. There are some people who find love and are lucky to have found them. There are some who give love, and feel great pain when they lose it. But we should love even when it hurts.

Why? Because…

Love helps you understand yourself more.

When you get to experience truly loving someone, it inspires you to go beyond what you are usually capable of. Sometimes, you might even surprise yourself.

Love makes you stronger.

You know that ultimately, everything will be okay. You have gone lengths to express and give love. Even if unreciprocated, you know that at least on your end, you have shown how valuable the other person is. You know that you’re not on the losing end.

Love fuels everything, even if it’s not explicitly mentioned or seen.

The decisions that we make, as we normally say, is for someone else’s good or for your own good. That decision is fueled by love for others or love for yourself. Love is the flame that lights the world on fire.

There are more reasons why you should love even when it hurts. Hope you can share your thoughts on this!

I end this article with a quote:

Love myself I do. Not everything, but I love the good as well as the bad. I love my crazy lifestyle, and I love my hard discipline. I love my freedom of speech and the way my eyes get dark when I’m tired. I love that I have learned to trust people with my heart, even if it will get broken. I am proud of everything that I am and will become.

– Johnny Weir

This month is about all forms and types of love. Keep on loving!

10 Things to Show Love for your Great Kids

I’ve been so busy lately that I have felt so guilty. We have been so focused on growing our tech startup business that we have spent less time with Zeeka. But even if we have spent less time with her these past few days, we make sure that we show our daughter that we love her.

Children always want to feel that they are loved by their parents. It has been extra difficult for us recently with our daughter since she has become extra clingy. I guess this is what happens when they are already old enough to say what and how they are feeling. She has become extra vocal in telling us not to work or not to go to the office.

There are a lot of ways to show your love for your child apart from the material things. The following are good ideas to consider doing to show love to your child:

Spend quality time with your child

My daughter loves going to the mall. She loves trying on clothes. This has become a thing that we enjoy together. We would visit stores and buy Mommy and Me outfits! Haha!

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Quality time does not depend on the length of time that you bond with your child. It only has to be meaningful both to you as a parent and the child, where both focus on building the relationship. It means giving your full attention to your child (no checking of gadgets, etc.) What you can do is set aside that time which is only for your children — a day at the mall, a simple story time, etc. means a lot to a child more than you would know.

Be a good example

When you want them to be an obedient, generous, kind-hearted individual, then lead by example. This is the best way to teach a child about love and respect. Be kind to others and respect others. This is what they will see and this is what they will emulate.

Teach them discipline

Many children associate being disciplined as an act of “hate”. What we do as a couple is that we explain to our daughter why we get mad or why we discipline her. We explain to her that it’s because we love her and because we don’t want her to get hurt.

Be there when you are needed and Keep promises

I think that what kids really want is security. Since they are still young and unsure about a lot of things, they need to know that you will be there for them. There will be times when your child needs someone he or she could lean on so be sure to be with him or her during those times. Also, always keep your promises. These children need to see that they can trust and rely on you to keep your word.

Be sweet

Our daughter is a very sweet and caring child, and I attribute it to the fact that my husband is very caring and sweet to me. Haha! I think she always sees us hugging each other at home and putting one over the other in terms of needs, so she’s that way, too. She’ll always tell me, “Mommy, are you sad? Please don’t be sad,” when she sees me stressed out. I believe that even at a young age, a child can be very observant and critical of so many things. Show your child affection and you overtly show him or her love. Simple hugs and kisses on the cheek will mean a lot to them.

Act as your child’s protector

Sometimes, as parents, our “disciplinary” role is our automatic go-to-role. When we see another child crying beside our child, we automatically think our child did something wrong, and we “automatically” scold them without analyzing the situation. As parents, there are a lot of times when we need to be logical. We need to analyze then act accordingly. You would then see that there are a lot of times when we should have been our child’s protector even.

This happened to us. Our daughter is a meek and quiet child in front of other children. She would allow other children to take her toys and grab it away from her. We need to keep in mind that our children are weak and could not fend off for themselves. There are times when we need to tell them that they need to step up and fend for themselves. There are even times when we, as parents, need to step up, too, to act as our child’s protector especially when their security and safety is a concern.

Grant wishes

Kids wish for a lot of things and I think that sometimes, we need to grant them. Parents are so afraid that they would grow up as spoiled brats, but I believe that if you grant wishes in moderation, this will make them feel appreciated and loved. Don’t be too scared!

Compliments and praises

We never fail to give our daughter compliments and praises and we do it by being very specific about what she did well. I read somewhere that being specific makes everything clear and they would most likely do it again since they understand.

See, showing your child that you love them is not that hard. We don’t have to overthink. We just need to feel and trust that they will grow up to be Great Kids!

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Search for that thing that you Love Doing

When I was young, not to brag, I never had a hard time looking for love. My family and friends would say that I was the “ligawin” type. Although, I am a bit naive and dense when it comes to knowing though if a person likes me. It may be that or probably the fact that when I set my eyes on someone, he becomes my whole world. Anyway, this isn’t about my love story with EJ, but it’s a story about searching — searching though for the thing that you love doing.

I wasn’t that lucky though in searching for that one thing that I wanted to do for the rest of my life. When I was younger, I used to admire my friends who landed their first job / business and loved immediately and wholeheartedly. Until now, most of them are still in that same company, doing the same profession, and still managing their businesses. During those years, I was pretty envious. They were so successful already, earning probably millions of pesos and I was stuck with the feeling that I wasn’t where I was supposed to be.

I kept on searching and kept having an open mind. I have gone through a lot of businesses and side jobs, and believe me, when I say a lot — I mean A LOT!

Then the time came when I was creating events for Manila Workshops as a side business. I wanted to set up events so that I could use it as a tool to look for the business that I would eventually start. After a few runs, I realized that this (creating events) was the thing that I loved doing and it was there all along. It was right under my nose and I failed to notice it!

Fast forward to today, 3 years after, we are incorporating the business (from being a sole proprietorship). Also, I just came from Davao to conduct an onboarding session for my team there. I still couldn’t believe that I expanded the company from just me and my husband doing all the legwork for Manila Workshops to a team of 30 people now, helping out cascade the vision of Manila Workshops to our countrymen here in the Philippines.

Keep on searching

Looking back, there are so many things that I have learned and that I am grateful for, which I hope will help you also.

1) Never just settle. Settling is having that feeling that you know that one thing isn’t right for you, but you just “go with the flow” since it’s comfortable. It has to be something that makes you incessantly and ridiculously happy.

2) Love and believe in yourself. You deserve more than this comme ci-comme ca life. Believe that you got what it takes. All you need is to love yourself enough!

3) In searching, listen to the voice within. Listen to what other people say, consider what they say, but follow your heart. You know what’s best for you. You know what will make you happy. You know what will make you sleep well at night.

And the last thing that I learned is that the search for that thing that you love doing may seem like forever, but be patient. Be positive that you will find it. It may come early or late in life, but at least you get or will get to experience doing that thing that will make your heart leap every single day!

Loving and caring for you,

Mommy Ginger

Mommy Ginger

 

 

 

 

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That Thing Called Pagibig… That Thing Called Negosyo

I was in the shower a few minutes ago and I was thinking about business, relationships and breakups. I was thinking about it since me and my single friends were talking about it last night. It has been years since my last break-up and I must say, all of my break-ups were uneventful, except probably the first one. For those of you who know me or for those of you who constantly read my blog, you would probably know that I’m not really that emotional about stuff anymore. Don’t get me wrong. I used to be super emotional. My sister would call me the drama queen, since my life was one big drama.

I don’t know. I guess things changed. Now, my life is all about business and helping other people. I guess, I just got sick and tired of all the drama in my life.

That thing called

Now, a while ago, weird as it may sound, I was thinking of some analogies of business and relationships. In my head, I was looking at different types of people and I was going through different scenarios and thinking of how business and relationships are alike in many ways.

Types of People

Analogy #1:
Business: There are people who invest so much into a business and get super disappointed when there is little return on investment or no return at all.

Relationships: There are people who invest so much into relationships and get disappointed when they give more into the relationship than their partners.

Analogy #2:
Business: There are people who start out super excited with a business idea and concept and give it all they have got. But somewhere along the way, they realize that it’s not something that they want to do anymore.

Relationships: There are people who fall head over heels in-love and the first few years are like heaven on earth. But somewhere along the way, they realize that what they felt was just infatuation and that they were just in love with the idea of love.

Analogy #3:
Business: There are people who just want to keep on doing the things that they are doing and just don’t want to start their own business. They are happy that way.

Relationships: There are people who decide that they don’t want to go into any kind of relationship, even marriage. They are just happy being single.

Analogy #4:
Business: There are people who are happy with the business that they have started even if they have bumps and a lot of huge challenges along the way. They just get through it and deal with it. Lucky bastards!

Relationships: There are people who are happy with the relationship or marriage that they have. They may encounter a lot of little and even huge challenges, but in the end, they still survive, make it work and are happy with their decision.

Analogy #5:
Business: There are people who are stuck in a business because they have already signed the SEC and legal documents. They just pretend and work half-heartedly to make the business work and survive just to get by.

Relationships: There are people who have decided to settle down and stand path with the decision to marry that they made since they know it’s a commitment. Even if they aren’t happy anymore, what can they do, right?

Analogy #6:
Business: There are people who just created a business, but feel like something is missing or they feel impatient waiting for their ROI. They then tend to dabble into other different businesses just to see if they can get something out from those other endeavors.

Relationships: There are people who are in current relationships, but who feel that something is missing or that they can’t wait for marriage anymore. They then feel that they need to still look around and play the field, just in case there is someone out there who’s a better match for them.

Scenarios:

Ang pag-ibig parang negosyo…

– Minsan alam mo na ngang charity work, gusto mo paring i-pursue.
– Kumakapit ka lang as business idea mo kasi natatakot kang wala ka nang maisip na iba.
– Alam mo na ngang lugi ka, pero ayaw mong bitawan kasi mawawalan ka na ng negosyo at akalain ng tao, petiks ka nalang.
– Alam mo na ngang mali yung business idea mo at di ka kikita pero go lang kasi masaya ka naman.
– Alam mo na ngang mali yung pinili mong business partner, pero di ka na umatras kasi may SEC registration na at pumirma na sya.
– Alam mo na ngang gusto ng potential partner mo bumalik sa corporate world, pilit ka parin ng pilit na magnegosyo kayo together.
– Alam mo na ngang malulugi ka, umiyak ka parin at di ginawan ng paraan.
– Alam mo na ngang di maganda yung dynamics nyo ng business partner mo, niyaya mo parin sya sa bagong negosyo mo.
– Dasal ka ng dasal na sana magwork ang business mo pero di ka naman nagwo-work. Haller?
– Nagtitiis ka i-figure out kung paano mag-flafly yung business mo, kasi maganda sa papel at pitch deck (gusto mo talaga syang gawin), kaso wala talagang market.
– Gustong gusto mo yung business idea, kaso may nakagawa na… awww.

Haha! Sharing some #hugotsss lang this Monday afternoon 🙂

Do you want to share more #hugots? Pwede naman. Haha!

Why We Need to be Better People

As I scroll down through Facebook updates, I see one update of a lady who was there during that horrific night in France. After recounting the specifics of what had happened during the concert, she goes on with these words. Her words got to me. “There last thoughts were not on the animals who caused all this. It was thinking of the people they loved… Last night, the lives of many were forever changed and it is up to us to be better people, to live lives that the innocent victims of this tragedy dreamt about but sadly will now never be able to fulfill. – Isobel Bowdery”

I have not been in any situation like that and I couldn’t imagine what she had gone through. I doubt anyone of us would want to be in her situation, but I admire her for exposing what we should be thinking of right now. Yes, we may wonder about what is happening to this world — why is there so much violence, violence that even involves killing innocent people. Our hearts may even be filled with anger for those who did this. We may blame a lot of people for all of these things happening, but I think what this should be is more of a wake up call.

Better People

A wake up call for us to be better people.

Better does not necessarily mean that you need to change the world. Better does not mean running for office or seeking for a government position. Better does not mean inventing a life-changing surgery that may change the medical industry (sorry, I watch too much Grey’s Anatomy and Code Black downloads). It doesn’t even mean building a huge conglomerate, let alone a company.

Better, for me, just means being in love — in love with life, in love with living. Better means waking up everyday, loving ourselves and loving how living gives us the opportunity to enjoy and grow. Better means seeing yourself as valuable and capable of making a difference in this world, no matter how big or how small. Better means living with integrity, conviction, kindness and faith. It means seeing and upholding what is fair and just. It means loving yourself so that you can love others more. It means being kind to people and respecting what they believe in even if you don’t necessarily agree with them.

Better means that we just don’t thrive with people in our community, but we mingle and interact. We build relationships — relationships that strengthen the main core of our existence which is to love. We help each other achieve and grow, learn and love. We help them move on from past hurt, heartaches, hang-ups, depression, bullying and other negativity that they may have experienced. We help them achieve their fullest potential, by actively helping them out or by just being there as a friend.

Better means realizing that minute things that we can do will impact society in a big way if we constantly do it. We need to give more importance to living intentionally. If ever something tragic happens (I sincerely hope it doesn’t happen to any of us), we need to be able to say that we have lived and loved. We have done everything that we could have done with this precious life. We have been good people and we lived a good life.

A Life Full of Love

Happy Valentine’s Day!

And with that, let’s all sing along with my crush, Adam…

I have this horrible sore throat now and no, it’s not from singing (i wish!), but it’s from this pestering colds and cough that I had from our trip from Ilocos. I’ll write about it in another entry, but today, let’s talk about LOVE!

I think love is such a simple word to say and to spell, but not all of us really understand it’s meaning. Most of us, especially now that it’s Valentine’s day, think that love is something related to romanticism or sometimes even to lust or infatuation.

I got to watch 50 Shades of Grey and most of the viewers were ladies. I think we, ladies, were there for Christian Grey (aminin!) and for the romantic story line (even if it scenes of BDSM was patched on to it). Most ladies are really romantics. I think, I’m pretty safe making that generalization. We want to be loved and of course, we want to give love back. I think that’s pretty amazing. If we have everyone adhere to this general rule of loving each other, we’d have no senseless fights, murders and chaos. Although, I’m fascinated by all of these things about love, I think that you don’t necessarily need to be a romantic to be capable of giving great and pure love. Love doesn’t always involve romanticism. Why do we always think that love should always be equated with being a romantic? I don’t think so, because I for one, am not a romantic person (haha! There, I have said it!). Though, obviously, I am not a heartless biatch, too!

When I was younger, yes, I believed in romance. I still do, but I don’t think that this is the only word that we can associate love with. There are different types of love that we can feel for each person.

Shake your Life

I finally finished reading the book Shake your Life by the Happy Barn Milkshake Factory and some of the virtues and values that I would associate LOVE with are the following things stated in the book and descriptions directly quoted from the book:

Virtues

COMPASSION: “When someone is sad, be sensitive and share in his/her sorrow. Have a compassionate ear that will listen and a compassionate heart that will help.”

KINDNESS: “When you are helpful towards those in need without expecting anything in return”

FORGIVENESS: “When you forgive others, you take away their power to hurt you.”

GRATITUDE: “Being glad for things that happened knowing that it was not you who made it happen — that is gratitude!”

So this Valentine’s day, think of the other people around you, too, and impart Compassion, Kindness, Forgiveness and Gratitude! Have a great Valentine’s Day, everyone!

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Life Lessons for my Children: Life Lesson # 2 – Love for God & Family

Dear Zeeka,

It’s 8:56 in the evening. You’re dad and I had an early dinner at 7:OO pm like we normally do. This time though, daddy did not eat a lot. He’s not feeling well. i think he going to come down with a flu tomorrow. Even when he’s not feeling well, he is always thinking of me. He’s been telling you to take care of mommy by not kicking me too hard.

You’ve been kicking me like crazy today. I think that warm sack that you are in now is getting a little bit uncomfortable for you already. Hush now, little one. A month from now, we will already get to see you.

Daddy always calls out your name. He’s sleeping now, but just before he went to sleep, he called out your name. He said ‘Zeeka, I can’t wait to see you’. Know that even before you were born, we both loved you already and we love you deeply.

Which brings me to my life lesson number two for you. Love God then love your family above anyone or anything else. Nothing compares to the love that we, both mommy and daddy, have for you. I hope that you see that genuine love that daddy and mommy share, and we want you to fell our love, also. We will always be here for you, Zeeka. We always want what’s best for you.

I know that in the future, you may want things and we may not allow you to have them. Sometimes, you may even think that we are unreasonable. We will have our reasons, but again, it is for you. It is because we love you. Believe me when I say that it all boils down to the fact that we love you.

I can’t wait to see you, baby. I can’t wait to hold you. I can’t wait to love you.

Love your mommy,

Mommy Ginger

Mommy Ginger