I don’t think that I have been married long enough to say that I’m in a perfect marriage, but what I know is that we’re doing pretty well. I know that there is no perfect marriage, but I think I have been blessed.f In the 6 years of marriage, we have been given a lot of challenges and I think what made “us” work is the fact that we know that in a marriage, there should be teamwork where each one should #SharetheLoad.

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Admittedly, there are times when the road gets bumpy, but being seeing the effort that he places in this marriage, makes me love him more. What I love about my husband is that he really shares the load. He’s very supportive and does not only show it through his words, but shows is really using his actions.

There are a lot of men who promise you the world, but when push comes to shove, they are no where to be found. My husband is not that kind of a person. He is always there — always actively present.

Have you watched the new #‎SharetheLoad campaign video from Ariel India, P&G, and BBDO Worldwide, where they remind fathers and husbands to take small steps (like doing laundry) to create more equal homes. They won a Glass Lion at the 2015 Cannes Lions International Festival of Creativity for earlier work on this campaign.

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Here is the video: https://www.facebook.com/ArielPhilippines/videos/617607581728915/

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As moms, we love serving the people we love. We do this since this is how we show our family how much we love them. But over the years, it has become so stereotypical for moms to stay home and do the dishes, etc. Society has labeled roles to be that for a specific gender alone. For example, being the working mom that I am, I sometimes feel that some people in society still look at me as if I were a rebel — doing things that I should not be doing because it isn’t aligned with the “role” that I should play.

Let us share this campaign and remind everyone that a lot of things have changed, therefore, changes must happen, too. Men need to share the load, too!

I love Ariel’s global campaign on women empowerment, and their promotion of gender-equality initiatives in the Philippines through the #AhonPinay campaign. This campaign was launched in March 2016 in support of the Philippine Commission on Women’s (PCW) celebration of National Women’s Month. The #AhonPinay campaign focuses on uplifting women in their selected vocations. This is in line with the theme for the 2016 National Women’s Month celebration, “Kapakanan ni Juana, Isama sa Agenda,” which resonates the call for gender-balance in leadership and decision-making positions in the public and private sector, inclusion of women’s concerns in leadership platforms and the government’s development agenda, and capacitating women to reach their ambitions.

Ariel is the only fast-moving consumer goods brand actively involved in the National Women’s Day initiatives. As the brand continues to empower women, #AhonPinay will also support the Technical Education and Skills Development Authority (TESDA) – Women’s Center through a grant that will help women with their training courses. #AhonPinay will also tap various women’s advocacy groups to uplift, empower, and inspire women by raising gender equality awareness and bringing relevant issues not only in the workforce but in daily lives.

#SharetheLoad and #AhonPinay are both part of Ariel’s global women empowerment campaign, in recognition of its unique role to engage women around the world in promoting gender equality and equal opportunity.

Let’s spread the word about this campaign! There should be more men who share the load like my husband!

I’ve been so busy lately that I have felt so guilty. We have been so focused on growing our tech startup business that we have spent less time with Zeeka. But even if we have spent less time with her these past few days, we make sure that we show our daughter that we love her.

Children always want to feel that they are loved by their parents. It has been extra difficult for us recently with our daughter since she has become extra clingy. I guess this is what happens when they are already old enough to say what and how they are feeling. She has become extra vocal in telling us not to work or not to go to the office.

There are a lot of ways to show your love for your child apart from the material things. The following are good ideas to consider doing to show love to your child:

Spend quality time with your child

My daughter loves going to the mall. She loves trying on clothes. This has become a thing that we enjoy together. We would visit stores and buy Mommy and Me outfits! Haha!

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Quality time does not depend on the length of time that you bond with your child. It only has to be meaningful both to you as a parent and the child, where both focus on building the relationship. It means giving your full attention to your child (no checking of gadgets, etc.) What you can do is set aside that time which is only for your children — a day at the mall, a simple story time, etc. means a lot to a child more than you would know.

Be a good example

When you want them to be an obedient, generous, kind-hearted individual, then lead by example. This is the best way to teach a child about love and respect. Be kind to others and respect others. This is what they will see and this is what they will emulate.

Teach them discipline

Many children associate being disciplined as an act of “hate”. What we do as a couple is that we explain to our daughter why we get mad or why we discipline her. We explain to her that it’s because we love her and because we don’t want her to get hurt.

Be there when you are needed and Keep promises

I think that what kids really want is security. Since they are still young and unsure about a lot of things, they need to know that you will be there for them. There will be times when your child needs someone he or she could lean on so be sure to be with him or her during those times. Also, always keep your promises. These children need to see that they can trust and rely on you to keep your word.

Be sweet

Our daughter is a very sweet and caring child, and I attribute it to the fact that my husband is very caring and sweet to me. Haha! I think she always sees us hugging each other at home and putting one over the other in terms of needs, so she’s that way, too. She’ll always tell me, “Mommy, are you sad? Please don’t be sad,” when she sees me stressed out. I believe that even at a young age, a child can be very observant and critical of so many things. Show your child affection and you overtly show him or her love. Simple hugs and kisses on the cheek will mean a lot to them.

Act as your child’s protector

Sometimes, as parents, our “disciplinary” role is our automatic go-to-role. When we see another child crying beside our child, we automatically think our child did something wrong, and we “automatically” scold them without analyzing the situation. As parents, there are a lot of times when we need to be logical. We need to analyze then act accordingly. You would then see that there are a lot of times when we should have been our child’s protector even.

This happened to us. Our daughter is a meek and quiet child in front of other children. She would allow other children to take her toys and grab it away from her. We need to keep in mind that our children are weak and could not fend off for themselves. There are times when we need to tell them that they need to step up and fend for themselves. There are even times when we, as parents, need to step up, too, to act as our child’s protector especially when their security and safety is a concern.

Grant wishes

Kids wish for a lot of things and I think that sometimes, we need to grant them. Parents are so afraid that they would grow up as spoiled brats, but I believe that if you grant wishes in moderation, this will make them feel appreciated and loved. Don’t be too scared!

Compliments and praises

We never fail to give our daughter compliments and praises and we do it by being very specific about what she did well. I read somewhere that being specific makes everything clear and they would most likely do it again since they understand.

See, showing your child that you love them is not that hard. We don’t have to overthink. We just need to feel and trust that they will grow up to be Great Kids!

How do show your children that you love them? 🙂 Share a tip on Facebook and / or Instagram and tag @GreatKidsPH and @MommyGinger

Here are the mechanics:

a. A Mommy and Me set will be given to the chosen mom who shares the best tip on what they do to show their child their love on facebook and/or Instagram:)
b. Share your tip using #GreatKidsPH and #MommyGingerFinds so that we can monitor the entries
c. Contest will run from June 10 to July 1. The more posts, the more chances of winning.
d. On July 2, 9am, the winner will be announced via the Mommy Ginger Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/mommyginger/
e. The winner must be willing to claim the prize from any of the branches:

Pois Belly & Kids BOUTIQUES:
– TriNoma: Ground Floor near Activity Center
– SM Megamall: Level 5 The Atrium
– Shangri-la Plaza: Level 4 Main Bldg
– Alabang Town Center: Level 2 Expansion Bldg
– SM Mall Of Asia: Ground Floor in front of Kids Universe
– SM City Cebu: Level 2, Main Mall
– SM City Iloilo: Upper Ground Floor
– SM Lanang Premier Davao: Level 2
– Ayala Center Cebu: Level 3

f. You must be able to show a valid ID upon pick up of the prize 🙂

Post away and good luck!

 

When creating a business, we are so quick to judge always on what our customers want and need. Oftentimes, we assume that this is what they want and need because this is what we need and want for ourselves. To this, I say…
Wag ka masayadong assuming ha!” (Don’t assume too much!). Just kidding!

But seriously, we need to look deeper into what drives our target audience to connect with us, engage and eventually buy from us. I have been a victim of this also. I used to take research and customer validation for granted. I know that one of my strengths is connecting bits and pieces of knowledge to create a solution with the help of gut feeling, and oftentimes, my gut is right. But I know that we can’t just rely on gut nor just rely on statistics that we see online. We need to — get out of the building to validate these assumptions.

One tool that we’re using now for our business is called the Javelin board. We learned about it from Paul Pajo when he talked at our Ideaspace bootcamp.

Javelin Board

To understand more about the Javelin Board, check out this video!

Copy of the Javelin Board

It’s really easy to do and believe me, it does wonders. After validating your idea, you will basically have more than enough information to either push with the business idea that you have or to pivot and create/use a new approach, strategy, product or service.

This week and during the weeks to come, we will be validating our startup idea. If you are a freelancer, entrepreneur or doctor/lawyer, please help us by filling out this survey: http://goo.gl/forms/w11TS7hkYrlBWPTq1

Thank you for helping us! Get out of the building and validate!

Day in and day out, we spend most of the day working. My daughter would often ask me, “Why do you need to work, mama?”. I would then tell her that I’m working so that we earn money to buy the things that she wants. Let’s face it. We work because we want to earn money — money that would sustain the chosen lifestyle that we want. With the work that I do, I am often in front of the computer. A lot of times, especially when I forget to take mini-breaks and to stand up once in a while, my back hurts. Studies show that 80% of the population will likely experience back problems with the type of work that they do. Adults with back pain are 3 times more likely to be in poor health and 4 times more likely to experience serious psychological distress.

Being an entrepreneur is not easy and lately, I actually thought that I was going crazy. I had some serious mood swings and for some reason, everything was a blur. Last week, I made some changes in my life:

1. I spent lesser time in social media
2. I spent more time with people who were positive, who were open to collaborating and who were go-getters in achieving their dreams
3. I spent more time on things that I really enjoyed doing like watching downloads of The Mindy Project, The Unbreakable Kimmy Schmidt, Shark Tank and Drop Dead Diva and also watching animation shorts on YouTube… haha! I also spent more time playing boardgames. I missed these things.
4. I spent more time relaxing also. I got so stressed out trying to be perfect in every way. I was striving so hard to be the perfect mom, wife, leader, friend, etc. that instead of succeeding, I was failing. I noticed that once I let go, everything started “working” out for me.

Playing Peek-a-Boo!

Playing Peek-a-Boo!

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And one of the things that I did at home was I took a few minutes rest after every few hours. The tool that helped me a lot was our La-Z-Boy. I’m sure you’re quite familiar with this brand. La-Z-Boy has reclining chairs and sofas where the seat and the back move simultaneously. This is to ensure that your back and spine are supported. The sofa chair also has a leg rest that is patented to give you extra comfort. Because of the benefits that it gives, La-Z-Boy is proudly endorsed by the American Chiropractic Association.

Zeeka in a La-Z-Boy

Check this out, too. La-Z-Boy is perfect for pregnant women. I actually wished that I had this while I was still breastfeeding.

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My 3-year old daughter loves it, too! She calls it her rocking chair. We would also often sit together and just cuddle. She also loves playing on, because all of these adjustable parts seem to be more engaging and useful in her world of “pretend” kingdoms and jungles.

Zeeka and Ginger in a La-Z-Boy

Check out their new model, the La-Z-Boy Power XR. This is a series of remote controlled recliners. How cool is that!

I highly recommend having the La-Z-Boy in your home. I know it’s more pricey than a lot of other chairs or sofa out there, but it certainly has benefits that is beyond what you can get from the others. To know more about La-Z-Boy, please visit www.la-z-boyphilippines.com.