GINspiration — Life Lessons

Talks about Mommy Ginger’s life lessons for Baby Zeeka.

My Plan for My Life

There was a day when Zeeka asked me about heaven. She asked me, “Mom, where is heaven and how is it like there?” To that, I replied that heaven is where you want it to be. If you think that it’s a place where your loved ones are and you’re happy, then this or your life here on earth is heaven. If you think that God is also here with us, then maybe this is heaven.

I’d like to believe that there is something after this life when we pass away and I believe in God. How I think about life though is not a means to get to a better place (like heaven), but a vehicle to actually make this world that we live in a better place. Why wait for that better place when you have the power to create positive changes NOW?

I have a plan for my life, and this is how I view it to be:

This is my plan for my life. I know my handwriting sucks.. haha! Please bear with me!

So my first 25 years was really for learning, making mistakes, rising back up and trying again. My tip for those who are still in this part of the “life line” that I’m showing, just explore and try to do things that you’ve never done. If you’re scared to try, write down what’s the worst thing that could happen. You’ll realize that the worst thing isn’t as bad as it may seem.

Currently, I’m in a situation where I know what I stand for and what I believe in. This is where we usually find ourselves, make our own choices, see what we consider valuable and try our best to make a change in this life by utilizing our own actions.

This is also the the time that we try to grow our circle of influence. Because why not?

Just some thoughts about influence. Wanting to gain influence is not a bad thing. What you need to think about is why you want to grow or gain influence. The reason why I want to grow my circle of influence is that I have realized that the you can make huge positive changes when you reach more people. Think of it this way — the magnitude of the impact that you can create will obviously be bigger when you have a bigger circle of influence.

This is the reason why politicians or people in the government can make rules that affect the lives of a lot of people. We gave them our votes. Having said that, I digress… I have no plans of running for office. Haha!

What I stand for is really empowering the micro and small businesses and professionals in our country. I think most of you who follow my blog and vlog (https://youtube.com/gingerarboledavlog) know this and know my plan for my life.

Another thing that I’d like to do and Frances and I are really trying hard to spread the word is to connect every women to other women who can support them. We are doing this using the Lean in PH (https://www.facebook.com/groups/leaninph/) a Lean In Network that we started here in the Philippines.

Moving on, in my 50s or probably 60s and onwards toward the end of my life, I’d like to focus on helping younger people who also want to make their voices heard and who want to make this world a better place.

At the end on my life, I want to be able to say that I left the world knowing that my daughter is living in a better world because I tried to make it a better place for her.

Where did all these self-reflection come from? Haha! Just wanted to share this super duper nice feature that the Belle De Jour team has created.

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This really inspired me to share my thoughts today. Now, for you reading this, I’d love to get to know you. How about you?

Where are you now? What are you doing? Do you have your own life line? Share it with me by leaving a comment below or leaving a comment on social media and use #GINspiration.

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How are you REALLY? Injecting some Positivity!

I’ve noticed some changes with the way I think through things, the way I am with other people, the differences in my mood and how it changes abruptly, etc. I could go on listing more changes and more things that I’ve noticed, but rather than going on with that, I’d rather inject some positivity at this time. Injecting some positivity into things that I do helped me cope with factors that I can’t control.

I’ve been watching videos on Instagram and on YouTube, and there are some tips that I really find useful and some that make me feel worse than I’ve felt before watching the video.

I think what this pandemic has taught me is to learn how to distinguish things that I can control versus things that I can’t control.

So after feeling so “down” lately, what I did was I turned to one of my friends who is amazing. Her name is Trixie Esguerra.

Trixie Esguerra is the Philippines’ Vision Board Coach who helps people create powerful vision boards backed up by Science, grounded in Faith. She has done her signature Vision Board Parties for companies like FWD, ADB, Bayer, SMYPC, Manulife, Neutrogena, Sterling Bank, Tim Hortons, AIM and Louis Vuitton, to name a few. Also known as Positivitrix, she shares tips and tricks online to keep you positive!

We crated this video, and it was so much fun! I learned a lot from her. The really light and fun conversation was actually what I needed.

So if you’re feeling down and a little bit “off” lately, check this video out. Hope it helps you!

If you need someone to talk to… I’m just a comment away!

What is Life All About? (My Easter Reflection)

We will all have our own definition of what life is. My personal take on what life is about is that life exists or we exist to be of service to others.

Looking at the great examples of Jesus, Mother Teresa and all other people you may think as admirable, they dedicated their lives to serve others. You need not look further since our medical professionals and most people now are all serving others now at the time of COVID-19.

We can serve others in our own ways. There are no clear rules on how to serve others. It feels better though when you do it wholeheartedly without expecting anything in return.

Yesterday, when my husband and I were talking, we touched on the question: “are we just pressuring ourselves to hit a target for the business?” We’re both doers, goal-oriented individuals and we thrive in such a fast-paced industry. Even in Stardew Valley (for those who play), after completing the Community Center, the next question we asked was “so what now? Let’s hit to achieve 1,000,000 in our wallet!”. Yes, we constantly have goals that we want to achieve both in life and in a game.

But that question really got me thinking. Why do we have moving targets? Our targets change because people and our environment change. Each one of us change consistently that our priorities change and our loved ones’ priorities change, too.

Staying indoors really made me think about a lot of things. How about you?

Have you find the meaning of life?

What is your life’s purpose?

How are you of service to other people?

If you haven’t found your life’s purpose is yet, it’s okay. Some people find it early in life; sone find it late in life.

I wish you all clarity of purpose this Easter. May you find inspiration in the darkest days. May you find life’s meaning, and may you find people who will support your cause and purpose.

Have a Happy Easter Sunday!

You may be interested to read my other posts about life:

My One Word for 2020 – Commit!

My One Word for 2020 – Commit!

In life, there is comfort in knowing that we can easily change our minds later on. If we feel that we can’t decide, oftentimes, we don’t. We don’t take action and we just wait for things to “fall in place” — in a place where we are more comfortable to make decisions.

And sometimes, even if we have already decided, we oftentimes change our minds.

Not too sure if we want to eat burger or pizza? No worries, I can easily change my mind later on. Thinking about completing a task today? Oh, I’ll just to that tomorrow, so I can finish watching my favorite series today on Netflix.

This flexibility is great, but it can also be the root cause of inaction and lack of decisiveness. It can also lead to lack of accountability. We comfortably blame forces beyond our control for our lack of commitment.

“Wala pa akong pera…”

“Wala pa akong time…”

“Tsaka nalang pag di na ako busy…”

“Tsaka nalang pag di na ako stressed…”

“I’ll work on it if I’m in the mood…”

Have you ever said these words?

For the longest time, I, too, have been failing to commit to a few things in life. I always give being ‘busy’ as a reason to not to commit. So this year, I’ve chosen COMMIT as my one word.

As I analyzed the past year (2019), I successfully started going to the gym. The reason why I regularly go is that I book sessions with a personal trainer the week before. I know how valuable time is that I also value the time of others. So, when I tell Coach Daevid that I’ll be there on Monday and Thursday, I make sure that I don’t book any meetings or work during the times that I commit to going to the gym to have the session.

This made me think that if I actually commit to doing more things, I would probably have a better year ahead.

So this year, I won’t make excuses anymore for things that I need to do. I won’t make excuses for not meeting friends and for not going to social functions. I won’t make excuses for fixing stuff that I need to accomplish.

I will make this year awesome by COMMITTING and sticking to my commitments.

How about you? What is your one word for this 2020? Share it with me by commenting or posting on social media with #GINspiration 🙂

Have We Become More Envious of Others?

While sifting though pictures on Instagram (which I often do), I couldn’t help but feel admiration and sort of envious of what other people have. How do these people have perfect bodies? How do they get to travel often? How do they have so many things — things I couldn’t have? These have become thoughts that I would often think of every time I would open social media platforms. So yesterday, just like any other time and after my numerous observations (haha!), I set my phone aside and went on doing chores and living my own life.

Then that evening, my family talked about the seven deadly sins. I still haven’t memorised these sins, but I still do remember some episodes of the movie SEVEN which was shown last 1995. One of the sins, if you haven’t memorised it, too, is envy. I quickly shifted to a state of panicking a little, as I thought of the those times on Instagram, when I would “envy” other people on social media. Was I “sinning” during all those times? 🙁

But before delving into my feelings and what-not, let’s go back to the definition of envy.

From Merriam Webster, the definition of ENVY is a painful or resentful awareness of an advantage enjoyed by another joined with a desire to possess the same advantage.

This morning (since I was really bothered), I was reading articles on the different things associated with envy, jealousy, benchmarking, comparing, the ethics behind these concepts, etc. I wondered if the changes that’s happening with tech, social media platforms, etc. have made us more envious of other people’s things and lives. I wondered if feeling like this was really bad.

After reading a lot of articles I have drawn my own personal conclusions (and please indulge me a bit on this).

Looking through social media and feeling a little bit envious of how other people’s live look can either lead to…

1) encouraging you to be a better version of yourself so therefore this little dose of “envy” becomes a source of inspiration.

2) negative feelings of hatred and resentment which lead you to action like backstabbing, spreading gossip, etc.

3) being apathetic about it — which can either be good or bad. “Let him/her live our own lives. I have to fight my own battles, so kuddos to him / her!” (good) or “I don’t care… (dismissing the fact that you still feel some jealousy and harbor some sort of ill feelings still… which I think is bad if you don’t confront the feeling/s).

So I think that thinking of wanting to be better because this concept is presented by another human being on Instagram or Facebook isn’t bad. If it encourages you to channel your feelings to doing good, to becoming a happier, more productive person, I don’t really think that this makes it a sin.

At the end of the day, if you don’t hurt anyone emotionally or physically, and this statement includes yourself (please don’t torture yourself, too), it’s not something bad.

What do you think about this? What are your thought on envy and jealousy. Do you have tips on how to be less envious of others?