GINspiration — Life Lessons

Talks about Mommy Ginger’s life lessons for Baby Zeeka.

The thing about social media is that it has made us more connected and distant at the same time. I’m online more than 12 hours a day, and it doesn’t help that I’m a blogger / vlogger by profession, and a co-founder of a technology – based startup. It does help though that my other business, Manila Workshops, is an offline events management company. At least I get to see people. 😝

You see, my life is an open book to a lot of people. I post pictures of my family, friends, the food that I eat, the tech features that we’re building for our app upgrades, the events that I will attend, attending and will be attending soon, etc. You have my entire life there for you to view and see by just looking at my IG (@gingerarboleda) feed and my Facebook newsfeed (http://fb.com/MommyGinger).

I do still think though that I want to get to know others more. There is an ineffable empty feeling inside that I need to fill. Thinking about last year made me crave for deeper relationships with family and friends. I feel the need to get to know each one of you (my friends and readers) at a deeper level.

Let me start by sharing a few questions and I’ll start the conversation by answering each one of them. I hope that you carry on this conversation and share with me your own answers. I’d love to hear from you. BTW, I got these questions from this link.

If you didn’t have to sleep, what would you do with the extra time?

Ginger: Watch K-Dramas or work more 😆

What’s your favorite piece of clothing you own / owned?

Ginger: Probably a white shirt. No one notices that you’ve worn it again. hehe!

What hobby would you get into if time and money weren’t an issue?

Ginger: I would probably travel and collect Funko Pops and try out skin care products from all over the world.

What would your perfect room look like?

Ginger: A medium sized room (I don’t have a lot of clothes) with a huge bathroom with enough room for all my skin care stuff!

How often do you play sports?

Ginger: I don’t play anymore, but I used to play basketball.

What job would you be terrible at?

Ginger: I don’t think I would be a cook or a chef eveeeer!

If you could turn any activity into an Olympic sport, what would you have a good chance at winning medal for?

Ginger: I have a skill in catching and picking up stuffed toys in arcades. haha!

What is the most annoying habit that other people have?

Ginger: When people stand SO close to you when they’re next to you in line for something.

What skill would you like to master?

Ginger: Currently? Video Editing.

What would be the most amazing adventure to go on?

Ginger: Hmm, tough one! I want to do a lot of things (if budget wasn’t an issue). Prolly, camping in Korea, trekking in Peru, Sleeping under the stars in Namibia, enter a volcano in Iceland, etc. SEE! I have a lot on my list 🙂

If you had unlimited funds to build a house that you would live in for the rest of your life, what would the finished house be like?

Ginger: I would probably build a house near the beach.

What’s your favorite drink?

Ginger: Coffee — a latte!

What game or movie universe would you most like to live in?

Ginger: That’s easy! The Marvel Cinematic Universe!

Are you usually early or late?

Ginger: Usually early… I don’t feel comfortable being late.

What pets did you have while you were growing up?

Ginger: Dogs. hehe! I used to bread American Pitbull Terriers 🙂

When people come to you for help, what do they usually want help with?

Ginger: With their business and careers. 😀

What takes up too much of your time?

Ginger: Now? Everything! There is no specific thing.

What do you wish you knew more about?

Ginger: Three things — 1) Coding, 2) Video Editing and 3) Speaking Mandarin

What would be your first question after waking up from being cryogenically frozen for 100 years?

Ginger: “Where are the others?” 😁

What are some small things that make your day better?

Ginger: a cup of coffee, music (I really love listening to music, btw) and a hug!

Who’s your go to band or artist when you can’t decide on something to listen to?

Ginger: Maroon 5 or Sam Smith

What shows are you into?

Ginger: K-Dramas!

What age do you wish you could permanently be?

Ginger: My age now. I feel that I’m at an age where I understand more about life, but still yearn to learn more about different stuff and try out new things.

What TV show or movie do you refuse to watch?

Ginger: Horror shows. Can’t sleep after 😳

What would be your ideal way to spend the weekend?

Ginger: Work out in the morning, shower, then spend the whole day in bed watching Netflix!

What is something that is considered a luxury, but you don’t think you could live without?

Ginger: Possibly all of the products that I use for my face. haha! Skin care products!

How often do you people watch?

Ginger: Oh my! I love doing this! Often 🙂

What’s the best single day on the calendar?

Ginger: I love Christmas! Dec. 25?

How do you relax after a hard day of work?

Ginger: I watch shows on Netflix 🙂

What could you give a 40-minute presentation on with absolutely no preparation?

Ginger: It would probably be starting a business or marketing.

If you were dictator of a small island nation, what crazy dictator stuff would you do?

Ginger: Everyone should apply sunscreen every two hours.

What is something you think everyone should do at least once in their lives?

Ginger: Living on their own. 🙂 You learn how to become more independent.

Would you rather go hang gliding or whitewater rafting?

Ginger: hmmm… hang gliding?

What’s your dream car?

Ginger: None… In the first place, I don’t drive, so I don’t really mind having a “basic” car.

What are you most looking forward to in the next 10 years?

Ginger: Expanding the business and being “fit” again.

If all jobs had the same pay and hours, what job would you like to have?

Ginger: I would still love to have my job now… naaaks! Seriously though, I love doing the things that I’m doing now.

What’s the best way to start the day?

Ginger: Run outdoors!

What movie title best describes you or your life?

Ginger: haha! Miss Congeniality? (I love Sandra Bullock)

If you suddenly became a master at woodworking, what would you make?

Ginger: A customized cabinet? hahaha!

What is the luckiest thing that has happened to you?

Ginger: Had a healthy and really bright little girl for my second pregnancy (after losing the first one and after having pregnancy complications)

Where would you rather be from?

Ginger: I’m glad I’m a Filipina.

What are some things you’ve had to unlearn?

Ginger: Being so insecure about my body.

What are you looking forward to in the coming months?

Ginger: The growth of TAXUMO.

What one thing do you really want but can’t afford?

Ginger: Have some ME-time in a foreign place. I enjoyed flying to Israel last 2016.

Where do you usually go when you when you have time off?

Ginger: Have coffee at a coffee place.

What are you absolutely determined to do?

Ginger: Live long. There are a lot of things I still want to do.

What is the most impressive thing you know how to do?

Ginger: I actually know how to tap dance 🙂 hihi!

What question would you most like to know the answer to?

Ginger: Why do babies get sick? 🙁 Essentially, they’re “brand new”. Sana wala nalang sickness and diseases ang babies.

So these are my questions that I hope you get to answer in return! I’d love to read your blog posts or social media posts 🙂 Let’s start the year right by knowing more about one another.

I think I’ll do one livestream about this on Kumu (a mobile app). Please do follow me there!

Every year, I welcome the year with excitement. The new year ushers in a fresh start; it’s like hitting a RESET button. The reality though is that we get pumped up only for the first few months, then our habits continue to revert back to how we were the year before.

Why do we stumble and revert back to old habits?

I’m not sure about other people, but I guess for myself, these are the reasons:

#1 — It’s about ME being scared of a lot of things.

I’m scared of what other people will think of me. I’m scared that they might think that I’m not the same person anymore. I’m scared of being mediocre. I’m scared of failure. I’m scared of financial instability. I’m scared that my insecurities will haunt me again. ETC. ETC.

This year though, I think I’ve mustered up enough courage. It’s ironic that I got this courage from past fears that I have overcome.

And this year, I realized that. I realized that in order to overcome all the fears that I have, I need to face them with a new mindset — a belief that fear is not something that stops us, but something that makes us stronger. Hey, I’ve failed before, and I’m still here, right?

#2 — It’s probably because, I’ve been doing it for the longest time and find comfort in it.

I know that I’ve been telling a lot of people to say “no” to things that you don’t have time for, for things that are of lesser priority and to things that you don’t want to do. The reality though for a lot of people (and for ME) is that I find it hard to let go of things that I am used to doing or saying.

We often find comfort in the things that we’ve been doing for the longest time. I think for 2019, it’s the year to assess if you really need to do or say these things still (because you probably and REALLY love doing these things) or is it time to let go and break the habit?

#3 — It’s probably because I don’t have a time limit for myself.

At work and at home, I am a very patient person. But since I am but human, I will obviously lose my mind if something is not delivered on time or get frustrated when goals or aspirations are not met.

The thing about goals for yourself or setting New Year’s Resolutions is that most of us make plans that are not time-bound. Yes, I get that life is something that we need to enjoy, but what we want to avoid is that we trap ourselves in a cycle of “goal setting – implementation – frustration!”

We need to be a SUCCESS at some point, or at least feel successful. This will make us constantly strive to be better versions of ourselves.

So with this, we need to start being impatient with ourselves NOW! We need to give ourselves a timeline — a deadline.

So there. Well, I’ve started putting into action my “one word” for 2019, which is to Introspect. I think I’m well aware of the reasons why it’s difficult for me to drop some old habits, and to start anew.

Let’s see how this goes for me. I really hope I let go of my old, negative habits and feelings.

I hope I get over (some parts of) you, 2018. 😄

As a professional blogger, I need to be observant. Observant of the things happening to different people, observant of what the latest trends are and observant of what will come out in the market and the different innovations that products bring. That’s one skill as a “freelancer” that I have and I need.

This past year (2018) though, I’ve been looking out a lot. And looking at other people’s lives didn’t make me feel good, and it just made me compare my life with them. Obviously, I’m smart enough to know that what you see in social media is not the entire reality. But, looking out still didn’t make me feel good about myself.

Aside from looking out, I was so caught up with just doing things for the sake of just doing it. I got caught up with my day to day tasks as an entrepreneur and a freelancer that I forgot to take care of myself. I also “semi” forgot how feeling passionate about my craft was. I don’t know if this was just the feeling of being burnt out, or if this was being frustrated that things didn’t turn out the way I wanted it to, or if it was just me being impatient, but I hated the feeling.

I’m not a complainer. I just end up feeling tired. Although, I am thankful for having a super duper great support system (family and friends who are uberly great!), but I end up tired and feeling sad about my life.

The thing that helped me a lot this year are our prayers at night and my quiet time in the mornings when I run. In the evening, we take turns in the family to say what we are thankful for. Then in the morning, I love the stillness. I love that everything is so quiet, and it would be just me and my thoughts.

I’m grateful that I just need to look out my window to feel inspired!

So my resolution for this year for both my personal and professional life as a freelancer and entrepreneur is to do more looking in rather than looking out. I promise to do more introspection. I know that this will lead me to become more self-aware and self-awareness is the key to happiness and success. Why? When you truly know who you are, you capitalize on your strengths. You become happier with yourself, and when you are happy, you make other people happy.

So this 2019, I promise to:

  • Look at my strengths and weaknesses again and use it or act on it.
  • Try new things.
  • Blog about what I feel and what I think about things more frequently.
  • Set aside time to improve myself and my craft.
  • Spend more time with family and friends and have deeper conversations.
  • Build deeper relationships with people.
  • Continue to fix systems and process for my freelancing career and my business so that I free up time — time that I can use as “ME-Time”

I know that by doing this, I’ll be a better wife, mom, freelancer, entrepreneur, etc. I’ll be good at whatever role I need to fulfil in 2019.

Recently, I’ve been feeling a bit stressed with everything that has been happening at home at in our business. It’s mid-year and we need to give more effort and push more to get more clients for our business (Taxumo). For things at home, we need to make things work financially. As you know, my husband and I are “all in” in running the business that we have. We have freelancing gigs on the side, but we both don’t have day jobs and we are working with whatever we get from the business and from our side gigs.

Between this and being a parent, there’s a chance that we’ll go crazy anytime soon! It’s not easy (for both of us) to keep calm, stay strong and keep sane, but we have to. We need to be all of these things for our child and our employees (who we consider to be our other “kids”).

One day, I was invited to go to a Sanicare event. I thought it would just be another event. Amidst all of the things that I was thinking about, I decided that I needed a break from thinking and planning. Plus, I really wanted to have a Sanicare Play Day (#SanicarePlayDay) with my daughter. I decided a play day would be good for us. I missed spending quality time with her.

In the event, there were a lot of nice and really cool activities.

Sushi Making and Creating your own Headband Stand

Zeeka got a bunch of cotton, wrapped it on Nori-looking paper and decorated the top with cute designs! After creating “pretend” sushi, she created a headband stand. She has a lot of headbands at home and this DIY-headband stand will be great for keeping her accessories. After playing, she automatically got some Sanicare wet wipes to clean her hands.

Obstacle course and Playing at the Mini-Playground

This little girl loves exploring. We actually did all of the activities at the #SanicarePlayDay. There was a part with a wooden obstacle course and a wooden seesaw. She played happily in this area, as I watched and wondered on how big she has gotten! I still remember the time when she was still learning how to walk and talk. Now, she’s a brave little lady with her own mind, making her own decisions.

Playing with Sand in a Sandbox

We then played together with sand in the sandbox. I hid things under the sand and she would look for it. She loves treasure-hunting.

Singing in the Rain Photo wall and Frame your Hand Print

We then had our photo-taken and she also did the activity where you get to frame your hand print. She covered her palm and fingers with paint and pressed it against a Sanicare paper towel. It was then framed and we took it home as a keepsake. It was so cute! I loved this the best.

I also loved that all around the venue, there was an ample supply of wet wipes and paper towels to keep out little one’s hands clean.

While having our food, there was a program. I really thought that this was just another event for me until, I heard some things that struck me while Lea (Sanicare Marketing Communications Director) and Bianca Gonzales – Intal were talking. They were talking about Lea’s Sanicare story. She said that when they were kids, their mom would continuously hover over them and would go crazy chasing after them, so as to keep their hands clean while they play.

With Sanicare’s products, parents will have one less thing to worry about (#OneLessWorry) as they won’t need to stress over sanitary worries like these. Then I began to get emotional a bit and think about my situation now. Haha! I stopped myself as people would think that I’m crazy for sobbing in an event with wet wipes, toilet seat covers, paper towels and tissues (then again, there were boxes of tissue all over the place.. haha!).

I think we all just need time for ourselves. This is when clarity comes. We need time to keep sane. It’s nice to know that products like Sanicare go that extra mile to not only to create “functional” products, but also go to the extent of thinking of the situation of different moms and dads — thinking about how to help them keep sane. Being a parent is a huge responsibility. Imagine having that responsibility of forming a human so that they grow to up to be independent, smart, driven, generous, kind-hearted, God-fearing, loving, healthy, etc. It’s hard.

Then imagine having that responsibility and on-top of it all, the responsibility, too, to building up resources to make you capable of presenting that “bright future” to your little one. We, parents, work hard (be it to have a day job, or to build a business or to find clients for your freelancing career, or to grow your profession) in order to provide the best for our children. The “best that we can do” equates to the resources that we build to open up opportunities and to be able to make their dreams come true in the future.

This is what made this ordinary press event into a “not-so-ordinary” event. I went their with my daughter to have a Sanicare Play Day, but I came out stronger, knowing that there are people and brands cheering you on. The universe believes that WE can do it. We just have to trust. There’s something comforting about that fact that we all go through challenges and circumstances, and we know that we will all get through it! We just need to be there for each other.

So, to Sanicare, lots of love to you, too! We’ll be behind you, too, cheering on!

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Sanicare or Sanitary Care Products Asia (SCPA) Inc. went through different challenges from the Asian financial crisis in 1998, the burning down of their main factory in 2012, and the flooding of another facility in 2014. They’ve survived and they’re still standing strong! Read more about Sanicare’s story here: http://business.inquirer.net/217905/sanicare-weathers-storms-with-gods-grace

 

Faces. When I look at different faces — faces of loved ones, faces of friends, faces of acquaintances, faces of strangers, I think about the beauty and the mystery of life. Each face that I remembered tonight was seconds, minutes, hours or years of memories that made up my LIFE. How amazing is that? If you look at your life, how many faces have you seen? How many faces have actually taken up moments in your life?

In 7 days, i’ll turn 37. 37 is actually not a bad age. I think it’s actually the perfect time to contemplate on past actions and on choices that I’ve made, and still have ample time to work on more things.

I know my life isn’t perfect. I am not perfect. And I know that behind the faces that we have are complex individuals that sometimes others may not expect or even comprehend. Sometimes, we can’t even understand our own actions. But behind these complexities, we all have the same objective. Our objective is to be the best version of ourselves for whatever we believe we may encounter in the future (whether it be a God that we believe in, a divine being, reincarnation, etc.). So whatever we believe will happen to us after our death, we’re prepared and we know that we have acted accordingly to reach that “goal” or acted in accordance to what we believe is true to our nature.

I wish that life was that easy.

I wish that life could be as simple as choosing what’s right and avoiding what’s wrong, choosing good over evil. The reality though is that life presents us with tough choices. Some of these choices may all be “good”, depending on who “sees” it or who’s affected by the decision. And some may be bad, but sometimes, different factors can even blur that line of an act being “bad or a sin”.

In the past year, I’ll start with two things that I learned from my own experiences and from what I have observed. Do you know what these are?

It’s that life is made out of several (let’s say) time components, and when you see a single part or a moment in a person’s life, you cannot judge nor draw conclusions. This is because, you haven’t seen all of the components. And another thing is that you only have control over your own actions and decisions. You cannot and should not think or event attempt to control another person’s life. These two points (I think) are the basic premises of respect.

So keeping this in mind, we should not punish ourselves for broken time components, because we know that we can do better and make the next components better. In doing good, we don’t need to brag, broadcast or tell the world about those amazing moments, because what really matters is that you enjoyed those moments, you were present and that you will forever remember them.

So there. Those are my thoughts on this night. Those are the thoughts that came to my mind while remembering the faces, the feelings and the random moments in my life. On this night, 7 days before my birthday, I wish all of you clarity, empathy and hope that would help you live the rest of your lives in happiness and love. 🙂