GINspiration — Life Lessons

Talks about Mommy Ginger’s life lessons for Baby Zeeka.

It’s Friday and i’m working at full speed. I feel so alive and inspired today. I feel like most of you missed the bubbly and the enthusiastic Ginger, and guess what?! I’m back!

I’m sorry that I have been such a downer lately. It’s probably because I felt like I had to fulfil so many expectations and obligations. I also felt like I wanted to please people that I loved, and that became so much to bear. At times, I felt I wasn’t giving enough and, sometimes also, I felt depressed because I felt I wasn’t getting enough in return. I formulated expectations in my head, when in fact, life is just simple. I think I overthought things and aimed too high, too soon, that I felt exhausted.

I realized though that it was mostly all ME
. I was the one putting so much pressure on myself. I wanted to achieve things quickly and successfully, that I lost the fun and adventurous Ginger along the way.

I was going through different animation shorts today and this was what inspired me and reminded me of myself.

On the Same Page

What I Love about my Life

What I love about my life is that it’s always fun and exciting. There is not a day that I don’t get to learn new things. I am not much of a reader, but I love talking to people. I know it’s such a far comparison, but talking to one person for me is a lot like reading a book. When I talk to people, I am always excited as I get to discover new things and learn from their experiences, perceptions and thoughts. This may be probably the reason why I love blogging, also. Blogging allows me to meet various kinds of people, and share things that I learn from their stories.

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I love that I have so many ideas that I want to do and so many goals that I want to achieve. Here’s the thing, people. Never let other people say that you dream big. Do shoot for the stars and let go of your fear. How do I do it? How do I let go of that fear? I just do things, because I know that even if I fail, love will help me survive. People who love you will always be there for you, but even if you feel that you’re alone and no one gets your dream and ambitions, remember that you have enough love for yourself to get you by. Have faith (even if you don’t believe in God or the idea of a god) that their is a bigger plan to all of these things — that there is a higher purpose.

A Moderately Complicated Life

When people say that they don’t want a life of complication, I get it. Who would want drama in their lives? But in the same way, who would want to be doing things that you don’t love? Why would you give up your dreams or the person who truly makes you happy, when you have a chance at it and a chance with that person? Why would you purposely miss a bus ride when you know for sure that it will take you to Disneyland?

Life, in general and basically, is complicated. I’d give anything to know how to live every day “perfectly” (oh, that can be a super hero power that I’d wish for) and make perfectly, non-regrettable decisions, but I can’t. We all can’t because of this fact — we are only human.

I think we should aim for a moderately complicated life. It makes our life more interesting and worth living. I think what will make it moderately complicated is if we try to do things that we have always wanted to do, but were always scared to do. Sometimes, the thing that scares us the most is the thing that is good for us. We can make our lives moderately complicated yet fulfilling and exciting when we pursue our passion (yech! overrated phrase, I know… but really true, so I apologize if I had to say that).

My message for you today

Embrace life, because life is fun and exciting! This may be a bit extreme, but the lyrics of this song may be a weird kind of inspiration… 🙂 haha!

Just go and do things that you love and things that you have always wanted to try. If you fail, then c’est la vie!

I’m in this cafe that is really comforting for some reason. The voices of other people seem to drown out voices in my head. There are a lot of days and today was one of the shittiest days I have ever had (I apologize for using that term, but I don’t know how else I could describe it). The shittiest days start out really great and perfect that it makes a bad thing seem so huge and unbearable — and shitty.

People think that it’s easy to destroy someone’s life through social media. It is, actually. It is easy to do especially when the person’s a faker. With this, I will give you the truth and the whole truth about me. That way, you, my readers know me and I have nothing to hide.

The truth is i’m not perfect and I have a lot of flaws. Yup, I’m human (surprise, surprise!).

My number one flaw is that I dream big and strive so much. I work so hard to achieve goals that I think would be good for my family, but I stress myself and I allot a lot of time working and less time taking care of myself and my family. In the process, I doubt myself and think if I really made the right choice and decision. Yes, that’s a flaw and it makes me feel like a crazy person. It makes me feel incompetent, sad and lonely. It makes me feel that I’m probably not living the life that was meant for me.

We all glorify people who chase their dreams — those who turn things into unimaginable realities and those who are doing what they love. But when you become a wife and more so, a mom, it’s doubly hard to do so. You have to consider a lot of things and make decisions based on how it will affect your spouse, your child and your family. Will it affect them in anyway? Will they be happy when you decide a certain way? Will they be disappointed? Will you just choose a path that will be better for them and let go of your dreams? Will you continue to chase dreams and seem like the shitty mommy and wife that you will obviously be to a lot of people? Will you just lie and say that you’re happy with your life and just go with the flow and continue to feel empty inside? Will the decision that you make truly make you happy? Is this what you really want out of life?

You have to make tough choices and tough decisions. People think that being a woman in business is easy, that we have got it all covered. We just flash our charming smiles, and everyone bows down to your wishes. But it is not like that at all.

You fall in love. You marry. You have a child. You try to make ends meet and help out by chasing those dreams that you know will make everyone happy, and yet, you are condemned for it by everyone.

You are condemned for not having enough time for your child. You are condemned for making decisions that you made with a different intention, which are perceived differently. You are condemned for wishing and dreaming of a life that you want to have, because again, people think that you are not content with what you have now.

I honestly am contemplating if I should publish this, but I just wanted to share my thoughts tonight. I just wanted to share with you that being a woman is hard. Being an adult is hard. ‘Being’ is hard but that’s life.

Have you ever woken up to a day filled with questions about life? Well, today is that kind of a day for me. I thought of naming this article something else — some title filled with emotion, but I decided just to call this post April 11, for some reason I will expound on later in this article.

I woke up thinking of a lot of random things like how children are so brave. They just jump into doing things without thinking of the consequences of their actions. From stumbling and falling, they learn things. Then my mind shifted to thinking about working out today. A friend of mine told me that working out really makes you a happier individual. This made me think that this may be the reason why I have been feeling so “blah” for the past year. I haven’t been moving my muscles a lot lately. Then, my mind drifted to the thought of why Pia Wurtzbach, Lisa Soberano and Alice Dixon (my local girl crushes) are so damn hot! In the future, I would love to interview them just to see what they do on a daily basis, because I feel so ugly lately.

Then my mind again drifted to why I feel so insecure about how I look and what I can do. I thought that this may be because I think too much of what other people say and think. I analyze and interpret and then make conclusions already on how they feel about me base on how they treat me. I guess it’s because I’m human, and as human being (and a woman at that … haha!), we have our own intentions for doing things and then formulate certain expectations from others. Bottomline is that I think I should just not care and try loving myself more from now on.

Ej shared with me this very beautiful animation short for the music of Jane Bordeaux Band. I would like to give “slow claps” to the following people, too, who deserve to mentioned for this great animation short:
Producers: Uri Lotan & Yoav Shtibelman / Director: Uri Lotan / Co-Director: Yoav Shtibelman / Art Director: Ovadia Benishu / Additional Art: Avner Geller / Lighting and Shading: Yosef Refaeli / Additional Lighting: Uri Lotan, Rob Showalter / Storyboard: Yoav Shtibelman / Modeling and Rigging: Uri Lotan, Ore Peleg, Or Ofri / Texturing:Yosef Refaeli, Dor Ben-Dayan / Animation: Yoav Shtibelman, Toby Pedersen, Ron Polischuk / Effects: Phenomena Labs / Compositing: Uri Lotan, Ilia Marcus / Colorist: Ilya Marcus

Beautiful animated short! The lyrics are about a girl stuck in a routine while the world changes around her.

 

from Uri Lotan on Vimeo.

Here are the lyrics in English (translated from Hebrew):
Nights turn into days
Days turn into years
And among them I was going faster in circles
Winds are blowing on me
Blow on the back of my neck
Everything seems too far too big
I’m not moving forward
It’s the time that drifts away
This is another passing train
It’s a further tightening rope (knot)
Sunrises sinking fast
As more seasons pass
And I stay the same in this shortening time
(x2) I’m not moving forward
It’s the time that drifts away
This is another passing train
It’s a further tightening rope (knot)

I really loved this animation short and the lyrics. I love how it captured how I’m currently feeling now. I feel stuck and I feel like time is fleeting so fast. I actually just came from church, because I just had the urge to cry and cry. Manong uber kasi shared his life story and how he found his way when he turned to the Bible, that when I arrived here at Megamall, I wanted to let all the emotions out. From the entrance, it was a long walk to the 5th floor. I felt like a lost child hurrying to see my dad, because I just wanted someone to pour my heart out to.

Whew! That actually worked. I now feel that I can just surrender. Surrender everything — where I’m going, where I’m heading. I’ll just use my talents and continue to help others. Sometimes, we just all need to be reminded that there is something greater than us, a Divine Being, a God, a Lord that will help us make it through. We just have to believe that today (everyday) is the start of living a whole, complete life – the life that we always wanted to live.

April 11 is that day for me.

PS. Animators will want to know about this! 🙂 Animation Jam!

I forgot to great you all a Happy Easter! It was a long day for me yesterday. I didn’t get to sleep the other night. I just slept a total of 2 hours, so last night, obviously, my body gave up on me. This is not an excuse, but we should show people that you value them more often. This is what I want to share with you today. Before anything else, check out how cute my little darling was yesterday.

Hawaiian Little Cutie

I didn’t even remember kissing my daughter good night last night. I think I did though.

Who invented kisses and hugs? It’s just so amazing that by doing just these two simple things, you can change the world of someone else. By doing just these two things, you need not say anything else; it just says a lot already on how you feel about the person.

I think in this world, where we are constantly busy and constantly striving to make ends meet, we forget to show people how much they mean to us. I know, because I, too have been guilty of such a thing. It seems pitiful that I’m coming up with a list of things to show people that you value them (haha!), but really, we all need a little reminder once in a while. Here are the things in my list:

#1 – Say good morning and good night
I remember a thing that someone said about making sure that you no matter how busy your are, make sure that as parents, try to be the ones to send off and pick up your kids from school. It makes their day better. So this is also something that we can do for the person you care for. Try to say good morning, right after you wake up and try to say good night, just before sleeping. It really can make their day!

#2 – Try to celebrate with them and be present for special occasions
Yup, show people that you value them on their birthdays especially. I’m not a Valentine’s kind of a girl, neither a Holidays type of a person, but I enjoy and love these times, too, but I do love birthdays. I think we all should and we all do, even if we don’t admit it. It’s that one day in the year that you can be selfish and do whatever you want to do. By spending it with someone you love, even if it’s the day before your birthday with birthday salubongs and all, it just shows these people, your family and friends, how much you value them.

#3 – Do random and unexpected little nice things for them during the day that make them smile
Leave little post its with loving notes for them to see in different places, like in a book, or inside their wallet. Message them sweet and little things that show them how much they mean to you. Make them the first one you call when you receive both good news and bad news. This is what people don’t often get. It’s the little things that matter. People don’t expect that you’ll make grand gestures for them, but little stuff count.

#4 – Initiate and don’t wait

We often just wait for our husbands or boyfriends to take us out on dates. We often wait for our children to hug us, before we hug them back. Don’t wait for the perfect or the last moment before you show the person you love how much you value them. There is no such things as the perfect time. Personally, timing’s not an issue. Don’t be the person who regrets not doing things that you have wanted to do with the person you value or don’t put on hold things that you wanted to say, but was scared to say it because timing was off. Don’t wait to show people that you value them.

#5 – Respect their decisions and Listen

We are different people with different personalities, beliefs, desires and opinions. To show other people we value them, we need to respect their decisions. If we don’t agree with them, it’s okay. Listen to what they have to say. Don’t shut them off too quickly. Then, if you still think that you have a point, reason out with them. Try to reach a compromise, but if that doesn’t happen, just accept the fact that you won’t agree on some things, and just respect their decision.

#6 – Make time for them.

No matter how busy you are or no matter how groundbreaking your and revolutionary your job, career or business it, make time for the people you value.

It is really a fast paced world, and there seems as if there was too little of a time to do all the things that you need and love doing. Show people that you value them. Never delay or postpone things that would make the people you value feel special though, or it may be too late.

It’s 5:00 am and I know I should be sleeping, but for some reason, I couldn’t sleep again. So I did the inevitable and got my laptop and now, I’m writing this after looking through my life list. For a few days now, I have been busy with a lot of tasks for the different businesses that I have, so I haven’t had time to write. It’s been bugging me. I’m glad that the universe found a way to give me this time for writing.

Yesterday, on our way home, I was filled with energy and gusto for life. I was telling my husband that I think there is not enough hours in a day for all the work that I want to accomplish. I was telling him how excited I am for Monday, when I could start working again. I never felt anything like this when I was still employed. I know that this may sound crazy, but really, I never had the same zest for doing something greater.

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Anyway, I think this zest, this passion, or whatever you want to call it, may be the reason why I am up this early. I woke up and I just wanted to grab my laptop and work or blog. When I opened my computer, I was drawn to read my life list. As I was reading it, I realized that there were a lot of things that I wanted to remove and I wanted to add. I realized something more important, too, that a lot of the things there were things that I wanted to do for others and not really something for myself. I realized that this was true for those that I have already accomplished and for those that I have yet to accomplish.

Looking through my life list gave me the renewed passion that I have for life. It gave me a clearer picture of who I am as a person and what I really want to achieve or do with my life. I highly recommend that you create your own list.

Here is my list: http://mommyginger.com/my-life-list