I’ve been thinking about listing down my plans for this year, and I’ve noticed that most of them involve saving up money. It seems like I’ve just been listing down year after year the same plans, and just jacked up the amount that I needed to save.
Apart from money, I never get to fulfil my fitness goal. haha! I just had a conversation with my friend (shoutout to Paul!), and he said na “yan ka na naman eh!” (There you go again!). He was right. Since 2014, I’ve been saying that i’ll be healthy and fit, but after a few months, I become busy and forget that I “planned” to be fit.
But this year “seems” to be different. I think I would be able to run regularly and go to the gym regularly. Well, so far so good! I’ve been able to do that this December. I don’t get fat that easily, but I don’t also lose weight that easily. It’s like my body is “stuck” on where it is now, regardless of what I do or what I eat. So my goal is to be able to sustain running 10 kilometers without walking (just jog or run) like I used to. I just want to feel like I’m healthier than usual.
So, plan number 1 is to run at least 3x a week, so that I can build endurance again.
My next plan is to visit more places in both the Philippines (I want to visit all 133 cities in the Philippines) and the world in 2019. The places that I want to go to (where I’ve never been) are Korea, Malaysia, Australia, the US (yes, I have never been there!), Spain, Germany and Africa. Obviously, I haven’t built enough funds yet to go to these places so probably, one or two international destinations will do this year.
So, plan number 2 is to explore more places that I haven’t been to!
The next and the last plan probably that I’m going to share will now be related to my finances. I’m still a long shot from the amount that I want to save up for Zeeka’s College education.
My dream really is to have enough funds for her to go to any school that she would like to go to when she graduates. Whether it be MIT, Julliard, Yale, Harvard, Parsons or schools here like UA&P, UP, Ateneo, La Salle, etc., we should be able to give her that kind of future.
Plan number 3 is to increase our savings and investments for Zeeka!
I want to keep 2019 simple. I think this year, I will be more frugal on spending.
How about you? What are your plans for 2019? Care to share it with me?
Every year, we speak of resolutions that we want to fulfil and accomplish. My 5 year old daughter whispered to me yesterday, and asked me if I needed help with anything. I said that she can help me with the household chores, and then I asked her why she asked me. She said, “My New Year’s resolution is to help people.”
I had no doubt in my mind that she could fulfil it.
Then I thought about what made me so sure that she could. Why do most of us fail at fulfilling our New Year’s Resolutions? How can me make sure that we keep our commitments.
Here are some insights about resolutions that I can share with you:
Make sure that your resolutions are commitments that you can keep. It’s good to shoot for the moon and land among the stars, but still make sure that that “moon” is still within reach.
So when making a resolution, think about it really well and check if you can really do it. If it’s a habit that you want to form, check and see if you can actually do it at the number of times you want to do it and if you have enough time to do it. If it’s a financial goal, see if you have means, resources and capabilities to come up with the amount that you want.
Look at New Year’s Resolutions as a way for you to form habits. In forming habits, the most difficult part is really the first 21 days or the first month.
Make it easy for yourself to stick to your resolutions. Create reminders for yourself. Set aside time that when you can do the things that you need to do. In my case, one of my resolutions is to try to Blog / Vlog as often as possible. I love doing these things, so what I did was really to set aside time to do these two things. I blocked off my calendar (a set time in Google Calendar) just to do these things.
Another thing you can do is write down on sticky notes reminders that you can post in different locations in your house or in your office. It helps to see these reminders frequently!
The most important thing (like any other goal in your life) about resolutions is to rise up and try again in case you fail. Since it’s about conditioning your mind and body to follow a habit, there will be times when it will be difficult.
Just keep on trying and eventually, you’ll be able to keep your resolution and keep these new habits.
How about you? Do you have a list of resolutions that you intend to keep? Share it with me! Please use #GInspiration #MommyGinger
The thing about social media is that it has made us more connected and distant at the same time. I’m online more than 12 hours a day, and it doesn’t help that I’m a blogger / vlogger by profession, and a co-founder of a technology – based startup. It does help though that my other business, Manila Workshops, is an offline events management company. At least I get to see people. 😝
You see, my life is an open book to a lot of people. I post pictures of my family, friends, the food that I eat, the tech features that we’re building for our app upgrades, the events that I will attend, attending and will be attending soon, etc. You have my entire life there for you to view and see by just looking at my IG (@gingerarboleda) feed and my Facebook newsfeed (http://fb.com/MommyGinger).
I do still think though that I want to get to know others more. There is an ineffable empty feeling inside that I need to fill. Thinking about last year made me crave for deeper relationships with family and friends. I feel the need to get to know each one of you (my friends and readers) at a deeper level.
Let me start by sharing a few questions and I’ll start the conversation by answering each one of them. I hope that you carry on this conversation and share with me your own answers. I’d love to hear from you. BTW, I got these questions from this link.
If you didn’t have to sleep, what would you do with the extra time?
Ginger: Watch K-Dramas or work more 😆
What’s your favorite piece of clothing you own / owned?
Ginger: Probably a white shirt. No one notices that you’ve worn it again. hehe!
What hobby would you get into if time and money weren’t an issue?
Ginger: I would probably travel and collect Funko Pops and try out skin care products from all over the world.
What would your perfect room look like?
Ginger: A medium sized room (I don’t have a lot of clothes) with a huge bathroom with enough room for all my skin care stuff!
How often do you play sports?
Ginger: I don’t play anymore, but I used to play basketball.
What job would you be terrible at?
Ginger: I don’t think I would be a cook or a chef eveeeer!
If you could turn any activity into an Olympic sport, what would you have a good chance at winning medal for?
Ginger: I have a skill in catching and picking up stuffed toys in arcades. haha!
What is the most annoying habit that other people have?
Ginger: When people stand SO close to you when they’re next to you in line for something.
What skill would you like to master?
Ginger: Currently? Video Editing.
What would be the most amazing adventure to go on?
Ginger: Hmm, tough one! I want to do a lot of things (if budget wasn’t an issue). Prolly, camping in Korea, trekking in Peru, Sleeping under the stars in Namibia, enter a volcano in Iceland, etc. SEE! I have a lot on my list 🙂
If you had unlimited funds to build a house that you would live in for the rest of your life, what would the finished house be like?
Ginger: I would probably build a house near the beach.
What’s your favorite drink?
Ginger: Coffee — a latte!
What game or movie universe would you most like to live in?
Ginger: That’s easy! The Marvel Cinematic Universe!
Are you usually early or late?
Ginger: Usually early… I don’t feel comfortable being late.
What pets did you have while you were growing up?
Ginger: Dogs. hehe! I used to bread American Pitbull Terriers 🙂
When people come to you for help, what do they usually want help with?
Ginger: With their business and careers. 😀
What takes up too much of your time?
Ginger: Now? Everything! There is no specific thing.
What do you wish you knew more about?
Ginger: Three things — 1) Coding, 2) Video Editing and 3) Speaking Mandarin
Every year, I welcome the year with excitement. The new year ushers in a fresh start; it’s like hitting a RESET button. The reality though is that we get pumped up only for the first few months, then our habits continue to revert back to how we were the year before.
Why do we stumble and revert back to old habits?
I’m not sure about other people, but I guess for myself, these are the reasons:
#1 — It’s about ME being scared of a lot of things.
I’m scared of what other people will think of me. I’m scared that they might think that I’m not the same person anymore. I’m scared of being mediocre. I’m scared of failure. I’m scared of financial instability. I’m scared that my insecurities will haunt me again. ETC. ETC.
This year though, I think I’ve mustered up enough courage. It’s ironic that I got this courage from past fears that I have overcome.
And this year, I realized that. I realized that in order to overcome all the fears that I have, I need to face them with a new mindset — a belief that fear is not something that stops us, but something that makes us stronger. Hey, I’ve failed before, and I’m still here, right?
#2 — It’s probably because, I’ve been doing it for the longest time and find comfort in it.
I know that I’ve been telling a lot of people to say “no” to things that you don’t have time for, for things that are of lesser priority and to things that you don’t want to do. The reality though for a lot of people (and for ME) is that I find it hard to let go of things that I am used to doing or saying.
We often find comfort in the things that we’ve been doing for the longest time. I think for 2019, it’s the year to assess if you really need to do or say these things still (because you probably and REALLY love doing these things) or is it time to let go and break the habit?
#3 — It’s probably because I don’t have a time limit for myself.
At work and at home, I am a very patient person. But since I am but human, I will obviously lose my mind if something is not delivered on time or get frustrated when goals or aspirations are not met.
The thing about goals for yourself or setting New Year’s Resolutions is that most of us make plans that are not time-bound. Yes, I get that life is something that we need to enjoy, but what we want to avoid is that we trap ourselves in a cycle of “goal setting – implementation – frustration!”
We need to be a SUCCESS at some point, or at least feel successful. This will make us constantly strive to be better versions of ourselves.
So with this, we need to start being impatient with ourselves NOW! We need to give ourselves a timeline — a deadline.
So there. Well, I’ve started putting into action my “one word” for 2019, which is to Introspect. I think I’m well aware of the reasons why it’s difficult for me to drop some old habits, and to start anew.
Let’s see how this goes for me. I really hope I let go of my old, negative habits and feelings.
As a professional blogger, I need to be observant. Observant of the things happening to different people, observant of what the latest trends are and observant of what will come out in the market and the different innovations that products bring. That’s one skill as a “freelancer” that I have and I need.
This past year (2018) though, I’ve been looking out a lot. And looking at other people’s lives didn’t make me feel good, and it just made me compare my life with them. Obviously, I’m smart enough to know that what you see in social media is not the entire reality. But, looking out still didn’t make me feel good about myself.
Aside from looking out, I was so caught up with just doing things for the sake of just doing it. I got caught up with my day to day tasks as an entrepreneur and a freelancer that I forgot to take care of myself. I also “semi” forgot how feeling passionate about my craft was. I don’t know if this was just the feeling of being burnt out, or if this was being frustrated that things didn’t turn out the way I wanted it to, or if it was just me being impatient, but I hated the feeling.
I’m not a complainer. I just end up feeling tired. Although, I am thankful for having a super duper great support system (family and friends who are uberly great!), but I end up tired and feeling sad about my life.
The thing that helped me a lot this year are our prayers at night and my quiet time in the mornings when I run. In the evening, we take turns in the family to say what we are thankful for. Then in the morning, I love the stillness. I love that everything is so quiet, and it would be just me and my thoughts.
So my resolution for this year for both my personal and professional life as a freelancer and entrepreneur is to do more looking in rather than looking out. I promise to do more introspection. I know that this will lead me to become more self-aware and self-awareness is the key to happiness and success. Why? When you truly know who you are, you capitalize on your strengths. You become happier with yourself, and when you are happy, you make other people happy.
So this 2019, I promise to:
Look at my strengths and weaknesses again and use it or act on it.
Try new things.
Blog about what I feel and what I think about things more frequently.
Set aside time to improve myself and my craft.
Spend more time with family and friends and have deeper conversations.
Build deeper relationships with people.
Continue to fix systems and process for my freelancing career and my business so that I free up time — time that I can use as “ME-Time”
I know that by doing this, I’ll be a better wife, mom, freelancer, entrepreneur, etc. I’ll be good at whatever role I need to fulfil in 2019.