Family

Talks about Mommy Ginger’s moments with her husband, child and the other members of the family.

The thing about social media is that it has made us more connected and distant at the same time. I’m online more than 12 hours a day, and it doesn’t help that I’m a blogger / vlogger by profession, and a co-founder of a technology – based startup. It does help though that my other business, Manila Workshops, is an offline events management company. At least I get to see people. 😝

You see, my life is an open book to a lot of people. I post pictures of my family, friends, the food that I eat, the tech features that we’re building for our app upgrades, the events that I will attend, attending and will be attending soon, etc. You have my entire life there for you to view and see by just looking at my IG (@gingerarboleda) feed and my Facebook newsfeed (http://fb.com/MommyGinger).

I do still think though that I want to get to know others more. There is an ineffable empty feeling inside that I need to fill. Thinking about last year made me crave for deeper relationships with family and friends. I feel the need to get to know each one of you (my friends and readers) at a deeper level.

Let me start by sharing a few questions and I’ll start the conversation by answering each one of them. I hope that you carry on this conversation and share with me your own answers. I’d love to hear from you. BTW, I got these questions from this link.

If you didn’t have to sleep, what would you do with the extra time?

Ginger: Watch K-Dramas or work more 😆

What’s your favorite piece of clothing you own / owned?

Ginger: Probably a white shirt. No one notices that you’ve worn it again. hehe!

What hobby would you get into if time and money weren’t an issue?

Ginger: I would probably travel and collect Funko Pops and try out skin care products from all over the world.

What would your perfect room look like?

Ginger: A medium sized room (I don’t have a lot of clothes) with a huge bathroom with enough room for all my skin care stuff!

How often do you play sports?

Ginger: I don’t play anymore, but I used to play basketball.

What job would you be terrible at?

Ginger: I don’t think I would be a cook or a chef eveeeer!

If you could turn any activity into an Olympic sport, what would you have a good chance at winning medal for?

Ginger: I have a skill in catching and picking up stuffed toys in arcades. haha!

What is the most annoying habit that other people have?

Ginger: When people stand SO close to you when they’re next to you in line for something.

What skill would you like to master?

Ginger: Currently? Video Editing.

What would be the most amazing adventure to go on?

Ginger: Hmm, tough one! I want to do a lot of things (if budget wasn’t an issue). Prolly, camping in Korea, trekking in Peru, Sleeping under the stars in Namibia, enter a volcano in Iceland, etc. SEE! I have a lot on my list 🙂

If you had unlimited funds to build a house that you would live in for the rest of your life, what would the finished house be like?

Ginger: I would probably build a house near the beach.

What’s your favorite drink?

Ginger: Coffee — a latte!

What game or movie universe would you most like to live in?

Ginger: That’s easy! The Marvel Cinematic Universe!

Are you usually early or late?

Ginger: Usually early… I don’t feel comfortable being late.

What pets did you have while you were growing up?

Ginger: Dogs. hehe! I used to bread American Pitbull Terriers 🙂

When people come to you for help, what do they usually want help with?

Ginger: With their business and careers. 😀

What takes up too much of your time?

Ginger: Now? Everything! There is no specific thing.

What do you wish you knew more about?

Ginger: Three things — 1) Coding, 2) Video Editing and 3) Speaking Mandarin

What would be your first question after waking up from being cryogenically frozen for 100 years?

Ginger: “Where are the others?” 😁

What are some small things that make your day better?

Ginger: a cup of coffee, music (I really love listening to music, btw) and a hug!

Who’s your go to band or artist when you can’t decide on something to listen to?

Ginger: Maroon 5 or Sam Smith

What shows are you into?

Ginger: K-Dramas!

What age do you wish you could permanently be?

Ginger: My age now. I feel that I’m at an age where I understand more about life, but still yearn to learn more about different stuff and try out new things.

What TV show or movie do you refuse to watch?

Ginger: Horror shows. Can’t sleep after 😳

What would be your ideal way to spend the weekend?

Ginger: Work out in the morning, shower, then spend the whole day in bed watching Netflix!

What is something that is considered a luxury, but you don’t think you could live without?

Ginger: Possibly all of the products that I use for my face. haha! Skin care products!

How often do you people watch?

Ginger: Oh my! I love doing this! Often 🙂

What’s the best single day on the calendar?

Ginger: I love Christmas! Dec. 25?

How do you relax after a hard day of work?

Ginger: I watch shows on Netflix 🙂

What could you give a 40-minute presentation on with absolutely no preparation?

Ginger: It would probably be starting a business or marketing.

If you were dictator of a small island nation, what crazy dictator stuff would you do?

Ginger: Everyone should apply sunscreen every two hours.

What is something you think everyone should do at least once in their lives?

Ginger: Living on their own. 🙂 You learn how to become more independent.

Would you rather go hang gliding or whitewater rafting?

Ginger: hmmm… hang gliding?

What’s your dream car?

Ginger: None… In the first place, I don’t drive, so I don’t really mind having a “basic” car.

What are you most looking forward to in the next 10 years?

Ginger: Expanding the business and being “fit” again.

If all jobs had the same pay and hours, what job would you like to have?

Ginger: I would still love to have my job now… naaaks! Seriously though, I love doing the things that I’m doing now.

What’s the best way to start the day?

Ginger: Run outdoors!

What movie title best describes you or your life?

Ginger: haha! Miss Congeniality? (I love Sandra Bullock)

If you suddenly became a master at woodworking, what would you make?

Ginger: A customized cabinet? hahaha!

What is the luckiest thing that has happened to you?

Ginger: Had a healthy and really bright little girl for my second pregnancy (after losing the first one and after having pregnancy complications)

Where would you rather be from?

Ginger: I’m glad I’m a Filipina.

What are some things you’ve had to unlearn?

Ginger: Being so insecure about my body.

What are you looking forward to in the coming months?

Ginger: The growth of TAXUMO.

What one thing do you really want but can’t afford?

Ginger: Have some ME-time in a foreign place. I enjoyed flying to Israel last 2016.

Where do you usually go when you when you have time off?

Ginger: Have coffee at a coffee place.

What are you absolutely determined to do?

Ginger: Live long. There are a lot of things I still want to do.

What is the most impressive thing you know how to do?

Ginger: I actually know how to tap dance 🙂 hihi!

What question would you most like to know the answer to?

Ginger: Why do babies get sick? 🙁 Essentially, they’re “brand new”. Sana wala nalang sickness and diseases ang babies.

So these are my questions that I hope you get to answer in return! I’d love to read your blog posts or social media posts 🙂 Let’s start the year right by knowing more about one another.

I think I’ll do one livestream about this on Kumu (a mobile app). Please do follow me there!

Every year, I welcome the year with excitement. The new year ushers in a fresh start; it’s like hitting a RESET button. The reality though is that we get pumped up only for the first few months, then our habits continue to revert back to how we were the year before.

Why do we stumble and revert back to old habits?

I’m not sure about other people, but I guess for myself, these are the reasons:

#1 — It’s about ME being scared of a lot of things.

I’m scared of what other people will think of me. I’m scared that they might think that I’m not the same person anymore. I’m scared of being mediocre. I’m scared of failure. I’m scared of financial instability. I’m scared that my insecurities will haunt me again. ETC. ETC.

This year though, I think I’ve mustered up enough courage. It’s ironic that I got this courage from past fears that I have overcome.

And this year, I realized that. I realized that in order to overcome all the fears that I have, I need to face them with a new mindset — a belief that fear is not something that stops us, but something that makes us stronger. Hey, I’ve failed before, and I’m still here, right?

#2 — It’s probably because, I’ve been doing it for the longest time and find comfort in it.

I know that I’ve been telling a lot of people to say “no” to things that you don’t have time for, for things that are of lesser priority and to things that you don’t want to do. The reality though for a lot of people (and for ME) is that I find it hard to let go of things that I am used to doing or saying.

We often find comfort in the things that we’ve been doing for the longest time. I think for 2019, it’s the year to assess if you really need to do or say these things still (because you probably and REALLY love doing these things) or is it time to let go and break the habit?

#3 — It’s probably because I don’t have a time limit for myself.

At work and at home, I am a very patient person. But since I am but human, I will obviously lose my mind if something is not delivered on time or get frustrated when goals or aspirations are not met.

The thing about goals for yourself or setting New Year’s Resolutions is that most of us make plans that are not time-bound. Yes, I get that life is something that we need to enjoy, but what we want to avoid is that we trap ourselves in a cycle of “goal setting – implementation – frustration!”

We need to be a SUCCESS at some point, or at least feel successful. This will make us constantly strive to be better versions of ourselves.

So with this, we need to start being impatient with ourselves NOW! We need to give ourselves a timeline — a deadline.

So there. Well, I’ve started putting into action my “one word” for 2019, which is to Introspect. I think I’m well aware of the reasons why it’s difficult for me to drop some old habits, and to start anew.

Let’s see how this goes for me. I really hope I let go of my old, negative habits and feelings.

I hope I get over (some parts of) you, 2018. 😄

As a professional blogger, I need to be observant. Observant of the things happening to different people, observant of what the latest trends are and observant of what will come out in the market and the different innovations that products bring. That’s one skill as a “freelancer” that I have and I need.

This past year (2018) though, I’ve been looking out a lot. And looking at other people’s lives didn’t make me feel good, and it just made me compare my life with them. Obviously, I’m smart enough to know that what you see in social media is not the entire reality. But, looking out still didn’t make me feel good about myself.

Aside from looking out, I was so caught up with just doing things for the sake of just doing it. I got caught up with my day to day tasks as an entrepreneur and a freelancer that I forgot to take care of myself. I also “semi” forgot how feeling passionate about my craft was. I don’t know if this was just the feeling of being burnt out, or if this was being frustrated that things didn’t turn out the way I wanted it to, or if it was just me being impatient, but I hated the feeling.

I’m not a complainer. I just end up feeling tired. Although, I am thankful for having a super duper great support system (family and friends who are uberly great!), but I end up tired and feeling sad about my life.

The thing that helped me a lot this year are our prayers at night and my quiet time in the mornings when I run. In the evening, we take turns in the family to say what we are thankful for. Then in the morning, I love the stillness. I love that everything is so quiet, and it would be just me and my thoughts.

I’m grateful that I just need to look out my window to feel inspired!

So my resolution for this year for both my personal and professional life as a freelancer and entrepreneur is to do more looking in rather than looking out. I promise to do more introspection. I know that this will lead me to become more self-aware and self-awareness is the key to happiness and success. Why? When you truly know who you are, you capitalize on your strengths. You become happier with yourself, and when you are happy, you make other people happy.

So this 2019, I promise to:

  • Look at my strengths and weaknesses again and use it or act on it.
  • Try new things.
  • Blog about what I feel and what I think about things more frequently.
  • Set aside time to improve myself and my craft.
  • Spend more time with family and friends and have deeper conversations.
  • Build deeper relationships with people.
  • Continue to fix systems and process for my freelancing career and my business so that I free up time — time that I can use as “ME-Time”

I know that by doing this, I’ll be a better wife, mom, freelancer, entrepreneur, etc. I’ll be good at whatever role I need to fulfil in 2019.

I wished I lived in a cooler country, or better yet, I wish this country had cooler weather (I love living in the Philippines). The reason why I thought about this is that I want to change the way I dress this 2019. Watching the Korean drama What’s Wrong with Secretary Kim has made me rethink my wardrobe choices. If you haven’t seen this Korean drama on Netflix yet, sharing with you some of her outfits in different episodes.

Image from: https://www.soompi.com/article/1204381wpp/7-chic-styles-whats-wrong-secretary-kim-inspire-office-look

I love the flowy blouses and the pencil cut skirts. I’m sort of sick and tired of wearing jeans and shirts. haha! The reason why I revert back though to shirt and jeans is the fact that it’s very comfortable. First of all, I need to be ready to bend down to tie my daughter’s shoe, chase her when she suddenly wants to race and to easily change my top (jeans go with anything!) when something spills.

And the fact that we own a start-up company doesn’t help. In our company, anyone can come in any attire they choose. The only rule is that they have to dress up for events and meetings. But most of the time, people come in in jeans, shirt, etc. and we don’t really mind.

For 2019 though, I want this year to be different. I want to dress for success! As Zig Ziglar said…

You cannot climb the ladder of success dressed in the costume of failure.

Zig Ziglar

Wait… wait! That may be too harsh of a saying since my jeans isn’t really what I’d consider a costume of failure 😄 But, you get what I mean!

So anyway, i’m looking through Lazada now and here are the pencil cut skirts that I’m seriously looking at buying.

https://www.lazada.com.ph/products/syxianzi-spring-and-summer-new-products-skirt-high-waist-skirt-sheath-dress-for-women-pencil-skirt-professional-large-size-i127728209-s136536000.html

https://www.lazada.com.ph/products/syxianzi-spring-and-autumn-skirt-high-waist-sheath-pencil-skirt-front-slit-in-skirt-large-size-women-i207643302-s263112382.html?

https://www.lazada.com.ph/products/large-size-bag-skirt-female-spring-and-new-korean-version-of-the-split-step-skirt-was-thin-waist-and-long-sections-wild-skirts-intl-i133159337-s146814895.html?spm=a2o4l.searchlist.list.60.7dee25628OxzFa&search=1

How about you? What will be your personal style this 2019? 🙂

Sharing a piece of myself today. No pictures, though, because I couldn’t get myself to take photos.

I’ve locked myself inside my room. I brought my laptop, because I needed something to distract me. Zeeka couldn’t stop whining. First, it was about Monopoly and how she couldn’t get the little paper money inside the little pouch. After whining about that, she whined about not being able to play with the big sack of play dough. I didn’t let her play that because we were having friends over, and I didn’t want to dirty the place. After that episode, I just had it. I didn’t want to do anything that would hurt her, so I ran towards my room, shut the door and locked myself up.

She kept on crying for a good 15 minutes and shouting.

So yeah, this is my life. And ‘this’ happens (behind the scenes of social media) at least a couple of times during the day, mind you. These are the scenes that we don’t show. But, as moms, this is our REALITY.

As I look at young, single and fashionable women on Instagram, I couldn’t help but feel a little jealous. “Look at you having the time of your life,” I scoff. “Enjoy it while you can.”

Now, my life is full of concerns like: “Did she finish her baon today? or did she pee on her underwear or how’s my schedule like next week since they extended club time”.

I want to be concerned just for once about whether my tan lines show or not! Please! Haha!

Then after my “internal” rants about my predicament and after feeling sorry for myself, I hear a knock on the door. This cute little human in pigtails asks me for food, because she’s hungry.

My heart melts. We’re then friends again.

And this cycle continues.