Family

Talks about Mommy Ginger’s moments with her husband, child and the other members of the family.

Momtrepreneur: Goal Setting

During the start of the year, it has always become a habit of mine to reflect and to contemplate. If there’s one thing that I like doing, I love contemplating, creating goals and thinking of ways on how to achieve them. I know that some of us do this, but some may also consider it very tedious and time consuming. I’d like to share how me and my husband do our goal planning or goal setting. We have done this since the time we got married in December 2009. I, personally, have done it since 2007.

Okay, for this year, we have already actually made our plans last December. We agree on a set schedule and we really sit on it. I have learned from a previous female boss that once you really block of something in your calendar, it helps you stick to this schedule. I know that their are things that may come in the way of the schedule that may delay and even cancel it, but all you need to do is reschedule. Both of you and even all your children should stick by this ‘agreed’ goal setting meeting.

Now that you have gathered everyone, ask each member of the family to share what they want for the themselves, the family and for other people in the future. To make it fun for the kids, they can cut out pictures from magazines or draw something that will answer all of these questions. This time of reflection will lead you to knowing your family’s vision/mission. Since right now, it’s just me and my husband, we discussed it and we found out our vision for our family. The vision of our family is to be “A family that will spread knowledge through various media to help people grow and achieve their goals in life.

We realized that both of us have this gift of spreading knowledge using our skills. EJ is a great presenter and communicator. In the future, he really wants to try it out as a motivational or attitudinal speaker. I am great at events coordination so my business, Manila Workshops, for me, will be the medium that I will use to help spread knowledge. Both of us are bloggers and this year, we intend to carry out this vision by writing more educational and informative articles that would be beneficial for our readers. So that’s our vision? Do you have your own family vision/mission already?

Momtrepreneur Goal Setting

Now going back to the goal setting activity, once you have your vision/mission, you now can create goals. What we do in our home is divide the goals into categories. In my list, we have divided our goals into seven sub-categories. These are:
– Goals related to the baby (since this is a major change in our lives in 2013)
– Spiritual Goals
– Financial Goals
– Fitness and Health Goals
– Career Goals
– Mental Goals
– New things and experiences

I also have columns on who will be the main driver of a particular goal. The driver will be the one encouraging the other family members to work on the goal. I also have another column for duration. I have a set deadline for each of the goal.

It really depends on you and your family on how you want to create the sub categories or even how to lay them out or how to document them. I use an excel spreadsheet, but for some families, they use manila paper. Others use a plain sheet of white paper. For us, it has been like this for the past 3 years. I still have the file from three years ago. What changed is that we just added the goals related to the baby this year 🙂

To cast this is stone, I print out the paper and have me and EJ sign the paper. We then do a monthly review of our goals just to see that we are on track.

How about you, mommy? What do you do to set goals for the year? Do you have any activity that you and your family go through for goal setting and planning? How do you do it? I’d love to hear how you do it at your home, momtrepreneur?

Love lots,

Mommy Ginger

Mommy Ginger

One Word 2013: Learn

It took a while before I could finally decide on what my one word was going to be this year. Finally, I have decided on a word that will encapsulate everything that I am planning to do and achieve this year. I chose the word…

Learn

My one word 2013 is LEARN

Why LEARN?
After a conversation with a friend last night, I realized that one of the things that I want to focus on this year is learning, creating avenues for learning and sharing my learnings with others (over probably a cup of coffee… thus the coffee stain in the poster). I realized that a lot of my goals and plans for this year and even my life list have a lot to do with learning.

LEARNING in the Family…
I’m about to be a mom and I know that I can’t be a perfect parent or wife, but this year, I will try my darn best to learn and strive to be a good parent and a loving wife. I’ll strive to learn as much as I can by attending workshops, reading books and even trying out things that I have never done before (make an effort to learn cooking…). I will also try to learn more about breastfeeding through others and through personal experience. I will be patient and really try to breastfeed until Zeeka is 2 years old.

LEARNING with Friends…
I will actively pursue creating workshops for ManilaWorkshops.com (even those that I will offer for free: I was thinking of a free Photoshop workshop) so as to help friends and acquaintances learn with me. I want to bring inspire other people to continue learning.

LEARNING more about my Faith…
I will learn to be more spiritual. I have started reading passages from the Bible again and I have started praying every evening, too, with my husband. I promise to learn more about the origins of the Catholic religion, which my hubby, is so fascinated by.

LEARNING from mistakes…
I will go for things that I have not done before. I want to seek new challenges and learn from these. If I fail, I want to learn and share what I have gone through with others.

By the end of 2013, I know that if I stick true to living my word, which is to LEARN, I know that I will have had a fruitful, productive and well-lived year.

What’s your one word for this year? BTW, i’m linking this to One Word 365 Community.

Love,

Mommy Ginger

Mommy Ginger

Pregnancy Week 30 – Meeting Baby Zeeka through a 4D Ultrasound

I can’t believe it! I can already see the features of my Zeeka. We went to the Women’s Health Department of Asian Hospital yesterday. We had our 4D Ultrasound scheduled. Ej and I were so excited to meet Zeeka.

The 4D ultrasound at Asian costs Php 4,550. It comes with a CD of the pictures and a video of your baby. Our appointment was at 10:00 am, but the doctor who was in charge of scanning us, advised me to go and hydrate and eat! This is actually a tip for moms-to-be who will have 4D Ultrasound appointments. Be sure to arrive with a full stomach! Drink a lot of fluids and eat food. Doctors or the one doing the scan will want to have the babies alive, awake and enthusiatic for this procedure.

I went down to have a bagel and two glasses of water. I didn’t go to the restroom anymore before the procedure. The more liquid that you take, the better, since it creates space so it would be easier to find the parts of the body of your baby like the face, limbs, etc.

We were called in at around 11:30 am. Zeeka is still in breech position.

Baby Zeeka, I hope you turn around just in time. Mommy wants to have a normal delivery. hehe!

During the first few takes, Zeeka was smiling with her hands cupping her chin. Talking about a Koreanovela pose! Way to go, girl! Actress in the making. Maybe you could fulfill mommy’s dreams of being an actress. A few seconds later though, she made a fist and hid her face. Aaaaaaw! She then hid also under her umbilical cord.

Pictures from Zeeka's 4D Ultrasound

Pictures from Zeeka’s 4D Ultrasound

We couldn’t take any more nice photos of Zeeka. The doctor was kind enough to offer me another 4D Ultrasound schedule Thursday next week, so that we could take better photos.

We then just continued the ultrasound by measuring the body parts and taking the weight of Zeeka. Chubby cheeks Zeeka is now at 3 pounds and 4 ounces. She’s also definitely a girl! The doctor checked again and she was sure.

We left happy. I have the printed out black and white photos, but I still have to come back on Thursday for another $D ultrasound. It’s okay! That means i’ll get to see Zeeka again. I’ll go with my mom and dad, too, on Thursday. They’re super excited!

I am, too! Again! 🙂

I love you, Zeeka! You have mommy’s nose.

Love,

Mommy Ginger

Mommy Ginger

Farewell to my dog, Collins…

A Farewell Letter to my dear “Manong” Collins

Dear Manong Collins,

It was 2:00 pm. I was sitting at the couch in the loft area of my in-laws’ house, when I felt my heart palpitate. I couldn’t breathe. I tried twisting my body, so that I was leaning on my left side, but still. I couldn’t breathe. I asked my nephew, DW, to call “Tito EJ” in the other room, but he was busy playing that I don’t think he really listened to me. A few minutes later, Ej joined me in the couch, and I told him that I wasn’t feeling well. We both entered the room to lie down. It was then that I got the phone call from my sister that you were rushed to Vets in Practice and you were in critical condition. I just knew that something was truly wrong.

The drive from Quezon City to the vet seemed so long. I felt numb. All I could remember were the shadows and patches of light from outside the window. We were still in the QC area when my sister texted me that you were gone. She texted (as they were already in Vets in Practice ahead of us), “manang, andito na kami. wala na talaga si Collins.” (We are here aleady. Collins is really gone.) To that, I replied “:'(” I didn’t know what to text back. I felt tears rolling down my eyes. The ride home was a long one — a long one where I could really think the times you were there for me.

Collins, what a cute face!

Collins, what a cute face!

My memories of you started when I got you when you were just barely 2 years old. I was so happy to see a blue grayish pitbull like you. As I clearly remember, you were tied to a steel pole, during the time we visited you and took you home. You were imported from the States by our friend Rommel from a guy named Ray Certified in the United States. I bought you from him. I was so proud of you! You were my first imported dog. I remember you, being so cute and cuddly! You looked like a polar bear (people still say that you do).

Collins 5

Collins 2

 

I remember that you had many “firsts”. You were the first Pitbull that was micro chipped. You were also the first Pitbull Champ in a joint dog show of two mainstream pitbull clubs, NPTC and PPC, during that time. You were the first pitbull icon used by NPTC in their membership card. But aside from all of these achievements, you were also the first dog to be allowed by mommy to stay inside the house. You were called “manong” by us, since you were the first male dog to be wholeheartedly embraced to be part of our family. You were our little brother.

Collins 4

Collins 1

 

You had so much love to give, despite your fierce barks to strangers. I remember the times when I would sit beside you on our dining area floor, while crying, during my younger years. You seemed to understand me. You listened and placed your head on my lap each time. You allowed me to cry it all out until I had no more tears. I will never forget those times. Thank you.

Collins: Cover of Good Dog Magazine December 2012 (just before he passed away)

Collins: Cover of Good Dog Magazine December 2012 (just before he passed away)

Until your last months and days, you thought about our family. You made us all proud as you stood in front of the camera for Good Dog Magazine. I know that you were tired, but you continued on and gave us your best smile and pose. Thank you for making us proud.

As I watched you twitch continuously yesterday after an awful seizure, I prayed that you would get well, and get well fast. I couldn’t bare the thought of you suffering anymore. Then the vet came to the house and everything seemed alright. We were all optimistic that you would get better.

I was shocked to receive a text from Mom this morning that you had gone into a coma. I was still hopeful that you would slip out of it in the afternoon, but I guess, you were thinking about us again. You didn’t want us to suffer anymore. You didn’t want to make us worry anymore. And I guess, that’s the reason why you left us so soon.

As we let you go, we would like to thank you, Manong, for all the great memories. Thank you for all the love. Thank you for being so generous, always thinking about us even before thinking of yourself. We know that you will be happy playing with Chubaka, your buddy, in dog heaven.

We love you. Still with a heavy heart, I know I have to let you go.

I’m now letting you go.

Love,
Manang

In Memory of SBK’s PR Collins Jan 16, 2002 – Jan 6, 2013
http://www.dogster.com/dogs/27399

“Dogs are our link to paradise. They don’t know evil or jealousy or discontent. To sit with a dog on a hillside on a glorious afternoon is to be back in Eden, where doing nothing was not boring–it was peace.” ― Milan Kundera

The Big Leap: My Story

It was a Sunday in the month of July 2012 when I found out that I was pregnant. It was the best day of my life… well, apart from my wedding day. I rushed to Ej, who was sitting at the ‘kabisera’ of our dining table. I remember that day vividly. I showed him the home pregnancy test result. He said “what’s this?”, then after a few seconds, I got a tight hug. We went to my OB that Wednesday just to be sure. I had my first trans-vaginal ultrasound and the doctor confirmed that I was pregnant. I was so happy! I called my mom and dad to tell them that they were going to be grandparents and they were all shouting with glee at the other end of the line.

TWO YEARS AGO…

For those who do not know, our story two years ago (May 2010) elicited a different reaction from all of us. It was February 2010 when I found out that I was pregnant. We thought everything was perfect. It was during the second ultrasound that we found out that I had a blighted ovum or an anembryonic pregnancy. This is when the fertilized egg clings to the uterine wall but does not develop further. It then needs to cleaned out of a woman’s system through D&C. I was emotionally affected, since I was really hoping to have a child, but 10 days after my D&C, I realized that this was not the end of our problems.

I was in a dinner at my ninang’s house when I suddenly bled profusely. I was rushed to the ER of Medical City and was advised to stay overnight. They had me undergo another ultrasound and found out that my placenta was still there and not completely cleaned. Early that morning, I was scheduled for another D&C. The findings came out after a few days and they were surprised again to see that they placenta was still there even with 2 D&C operations. At that time, I sought and explanation from 2 obstetricians. One of them mentioned to go to Dra. Diana Sarmiento in Asian Hospital as she would be an expert in Gestational Trophoblastic diseases. This was what doctors told me I may have had.

When I saw Dra. Sarmiento, she mentioned that I may have what they call Placenta Accreta. This is when the placenta deeply attaches to the uterus. In the States, the cure that they suggest and take always is an abdominal hysterectomy. Since I did not have any children yet, Dra. suggested that we try low dosages of chemotherapy until my HcG levels return to normal. I had to go to the doctor to be injected daily (one course was 5 consecutive days). I had the choice to stay at the hospital to have it through IV, but I chose injections. I had to wear a mask all the time. People had to take a bath and put alcohol before visiting me in my room. Even my husband went straight to the bathroom before he could see me, since my immune system was low.

After two courses with a 3 day gap in between, I was cured. I had to rest though from strenuous physical activities and from baby-making activities for at least 1 year. I was on the pill as recommended by doctora, since I could not risk getting pregnant. It was a traumatic experience for me. I thought I was dying. I really thought so. During that 12 month duration of resting and even afterwards, I was really scared of getting pregnant. I didn’t want that to happen again.

2012…

Baby at 5 Months...

Baby at 5 Months…

This was the year when I gathered enough courage and prepared myself physically, emotionally and spiritually. So, in July 2012, I got preggy! Yey! The minute I got pregnant, I knew that this was my priority. During the first trimester, I didn’t feel good. I had morning sickness and during my 10th week, I experienced spotting. I was working for a bank and I was actually in a Leadership Accelerated Development Program, which gave me the chance to be an AVP within a few years (probably around 5 years). It was already my third year into the program. I have been in the bank for almost 7 years and I enjoyed my job. I really enjoyed it! You can ask my husband on how he teases me that I love the bank more than him. 🙂 Everything was going well for me. I had big projects. I was producing results. But then, I decided to leave.

THE BIG LEAP
I really thought about it long and hard. It wasn’t an easy decision. I’m the workaholic type. I love being surrounded by people and loved filling in my calendar with things to do (yes, I’m a nerd). I knew that if I finally decide to resign, this will definitely be a big change. No steady income. No benefits. No meetings. No people to talk to on a daily basis. No deadlines. No presentations. No lunch breaks. No overtime. No title. No promotions. No bosses. Nothing of all these things. It will just be me, my baby in my belly, the maid and the condo unit… and my husband when he arrives. I’ve been so used to the corporate environment, that when EJ and I made the decision that I should quit for the baby, I was constantly crying. I didn’t know why. I didn’t know if it was a sign of relief that I didn’t have to go to work (happy cry). I didn’t know if it was the over-achiever in me who was crying — scared of not earning anything and contributing anything to the household budget. Maybe it was also because I knew that I will miss my friends and this life that I had in the corporate world — fear of letting go and fear of change.

But then again, I went back to priorities. My child, in this womb, was my number 1 priority. I had to let go of all stress and just concentrate on being a stay-at-home-mom. Our long term goal, too, as a couple was that I be in charge of starting a business that we can take care of in the future. EJ will be the source of the ‘steady income’ for our household. Ej encouraged me to follow my dreams. He said that I was the more ‘entrepreneurial’ one of the two of us. As to what business that is that I will build for the both of us, I still have no clue on what to do. Anyway, reflecting on what was important for us as a family was what made me decide. I took the big leap out from that world.

How has it been so far? Let me start by saying God is so good. Early 2012, I started helping people conduct their own workshops and seminars. I was sort of the logistics and the implementer. I enjoy these things since I get to help other people achieve their dreams of being an entrepreneur — since most of the workshops were skills on professions or businesses that they can do. The brand that I created was Manila Workshops.

Manila Workshops Logo

Manila Workshops Logo

I then realized that I enjoyed helping people achieve both their personal and professional goals in life. I resigned in October 2012 and in the two months that I have been ‘mostly’ at home, I have built my network and I have shared this passion I have with others. With this, my 2013 calendar is almost full, thus, requiring me to even think of hiring an intern for the month I will be indisposed due to my pregnancy. I have built partnerships with people and I have seen people happy and grateful for giving them the opportunity to learn.

I am excited for 2013! Now, all that doubt of leaving the life I was contented with is gone. I now have something to strive for and to work on (as a work-at-home-mom), and what makes me happy is that I get to help others in this journey.

This is my story.