I am bursting with emotions right now (ashamed to say that these are negative though) and what’s good about me being pregnant now is that I ‘intentionally’ have to control my emotions. I am a very emotional person and that I admit. People will know if I am happy, sad, frustrated, disappointed or angry (which I rarely am). It’s very hard for me to keep my feelings. But now that I will have a daughter soon, I know that I have to always be on the look out for that and control my feelings.
The good thing about feeling negative emotions though is that it helps me think and contemplate on life lessons that I want to share with my Children in the future. I, then thought of Phil Dunphy’s “Phil’s-osophy” Words of Wisdom, and this makes me grin a little. I’m sure those of you who are avid fans of Modern Family will know of this. Some of the advice that he give to his children are:
– Always look people in the eye, even if they’re blind. Just say, I’m looking you in the eye.
– If you get pulled over for speeding, tell the policeman your spouse has diarrhea.
– The most amazing things that can happen to a human being will happen to you if you just lower your expectations
He’s so funny! Anyway, so I thought of just randomly giving life lessons to my children that I hope that they will learn from in the future. Some of you may agree or disagree with my thoughts, but as a parent, these are the lessons that I want my child to get from me and her dad.
Life Lesson #1 – Give Love Unconditionally
As your mom, I want what’s best for you and sometimes or even oftentimes (even if you are already an adult), I want to give you things, gifts or even give you acts of service that you don’t actually ask for. Let me tell you this. I do not expect you to say thank you nor hug me nor kiss me nor write me a thank you note. Just seeing that you are happy will be enough for me. If you do give me 1, 2 or 3 of the things above in return, I will be so ecstatic, but this is not required of you! I repeat… this is NOT REQUIRED.
This is what giving love unconditionally means. If you do something special for someone else or if you give someone a gift to make them happy or happi-er without expecting something in return, then that is love. I will be so proud of you for doing such a good thing.
You will notice that in this world, a lot of people give because they expect something in return. This should not be the case.
Do not give love or do not do any acts of service and kindness if your main goal is to expect something in return. That good deed will be pointless. Do it because you care for the other person. Do it because it feels right. Do it because you want to do it. Do it because you love.
I really don’t like it when people say “kiss mo ako, bibili kita…” to kids. I don’t want my son to grow up thinking that he is required to do these things, just so he won’t hurt anyone’s feelings. I want him to do these things just because he wants to and not for any other agenda 😉
Amen to that, Chessy! 🙂