Sharing a piece of myself today. No pictures, though, because I couldn’t get myself to take photos.
I’ve locked myself inside my room. I brought my laptop, because I needed something to distract me. Zeeka couldn’t stop whining. First, it was about Monopoly and how she couldn’t get the little paper money inside the little pouch. After whining about that, she whined about not being able to play with the big sack of play dough. I didn’t let her play that because we were having friends over, and I didn’t want to dirty the place. After that episode, I just had it. I didn’t want to do anything that would hurt her, so I ran towards my room, shut the door and locked myself up.
She kept on crying for a good 15 minutes and shouting.
So yeah, this is my life. And ‘this’ happens (behind the scenes of social media) at least a couple of times during the day, mind you. These are the scenes that we don’t show. But, as moms, this is our REALITY.
As I look at young, single and fashionable women on Instagram, I couldn’t help but feel a little jealous. “Look at you having the time of your life,” I scoff. “Enjoy it while you can.”
Now, my life is full of concerns like: “Did she finish her baon today? or did she pee on her underwear or how’s my schedule like next week since they extended club time”.
I want to be concerned just for once about whether my tan lines show or not! Please! Haha!
Then after my “internal” rants about my predicament and after feeling sorry for myself, I hear a knock on the door. This cute little human in pigtails asks me for food, because she’s hungry.
My heart melts. We’re then friends again.
And this cycle continues.
I am truly a Belle De Jour fan. I love the Belle De Jour Planner 2019! I’m not just saying this, because Darlyn, the founder is a friend of mine. I have been using the BDJ or Belle De Jour planner since 2008. Wow, I just realized that that that was 10 years ago! I’ve been buying the BDJ planner, because I love the content. I love the lists, the pages that allow you to plan and the other trackers that Viviamo places inside the BDJ planner.
By the way, Viviamo is the name of the company behind all of these products that i’ll be sharing with you today. “Viviamo” is Italian for “we live!” The name is so fit for what Darlyn and her team hope to achieve, which is to provide products and services of superior quality and value that will help people to try, to dare, to succeed, to experience, and to live.
This year, I’d like to show you some of the products that they have created for you, starting with the dated planners with Belle De Jour Planner 2019 leading the pack!
BELLE DE JOUR POWER PLANNER
The theme of this year’s Belle de Jour (BDJ) Power Planner collection is “Make Today Magical.” I love that this is the theme, because with the plethora of things that you do on a daily basis, we oftentimes forget the ‘magic’ that every day can bring. We’re all pre-occupied with deadlines, tasks, and things to do, that we forget that life is about the journey, and not the destination.
Since I always have my Belle De Jour Planner 2019 planner with me, this is good reminder that we just need to think of things differently. Magic will then happen!
This year, the Belle De Jour Planner 2019 planner comes with 12-monthly dividers with worksheets about lifestyle, fashion, career, finance—to help you discover your own magic, identify your mood, strengths, priorities and goals. These worksheets include Make Things Happen, Checklist, Dream Board, Spirit Animal, Mood Tracker, and Make Your Own Magic Spell. The planner also features an expandable pocket sleeve at the back for receipts, cards and bills safekeeping.
Monthly Dividers – Start each month right with the monthly activities and articles about lifestyle, fashion, career, finance
Monthly Calendar and Weekly Layout – Manage your time and priorities with spacious monthly calendars and vertical weekly spreads
Special Pages – Discover your own magic, identify your mood, strengths, priorities, and goals through a variety of worksheet pages
The 2019 BDJ Power Planner comes in different styles—the classic cover (Php 598), limited edition (Php598), leather (Php 680), discbound (Php 980)—that cater to every Bella’s distinct taste and need.
BDJ Classic – Php598 – Matte laminated hardcover with glitters and illustration of the 2019 Bella
BDJ Limited Edition – Php598 – Matte laminated hardcover with glitters and a creative illustration about the Belle De Jour Planner 2019 theme
BDJ Leather – Php680 –Velvet black leather with debossed flower elements and gold foil stamping
BDJ DiscBound – Php980 – Gold-stamped velvet black leather with disc binding for users who want to customize planner pages
Aside from these functional pages of the Belle De Jour Planner 2019 and of course, the super thick booklet of discounts which we always love, a new and cool feature that it has is that there are little codes that you can scan using your Zappar app. See the pages come to life after scanning!
MY THOUGHTS ABOUT THE PLANNER:
As I browsed through the pages of the this year’s Belle De Jour planners, I can’t help but notice that it feels that the planner was created “intentionally” for me. Everything just felt so right. I think the BDJ team did a good job in understanding their market, and continuously evolving to suit the needs of its audience. Check out and grab a planner at http://ilovebdj.com
THE OTHER PLANNERS THAT THEY HAVE:
NAVI JOURNAL – Php598
This year, I had no plans of travelling often, but circumstances led me to opportunities to travel. And I’m thankful that most of these travels are within our country. I think that all of us should make time to travel to different places in the Philippines and immerse ourselves in our own culture, understand it and go back to our own origins. This kind of mindset is what this year’s Navi Journal plans to achieve. Instead of “just travelling”, try to immerse yourself in your own country’s or in another country’s culture and traditions.
Navi journal showcases contents and illustrations of 12 widely celebrated festivals from different parts of the world on its monthly dividers. With special pages such as 101 Checklist, Bucket List, Must-see Destinations, Pre-trip Checklist and Packing List, Navi journal helps you visualize your travel goals and carefully map out your next adventure with ease.
Monthly Dividers – Give the lowdown of widely celebrated festivals around the world to inspire you to explore different cultures
Monthly Calendar and Weekly Layout – Write down your monthly travel plans and your week’s highlights in the horizontal weekly layout with notes pages
Special Pages – Worksheet pages help you visualize your travel goals and carefully map out your next adventure with ease
Bound by an intricately-designed matte leather cover, the journal contains 176 full colored pages and horizontal weekly layout with notes page where you can list down your week’s highlights and wonders. What’s more, Navi also has an expandable back pocket that lets you store your travel essentials like tickets, cards, cash and postcards, among others.
For an affordable price of Php598, Navi Journal gives you access to over Php25,000 worth of discount coupons from partner brands in the Travel Curious coupon booklet.
This 2019, soak in the colors, the flavors, and the music of each festivity you go to and write about it in your journal. Bring Navi: Your Life Navigator Journal in your upcoming travels this year. Get it now for Php598 at all leading bookstores nationwide or visit us at ilovebdj.com.
EVERYTHING IS POSSIBLE – Php598
The 2019 Everything is Possible (EIP) is the perfect gift for anyone who wants a full and meaningful life this 2019. And, it also fits the lifestyle of goal-oriented people like me, who love to retrospect! haha! (Yes, I love drowning in my own thoughts… hehe!).
Priced at Php598, this year’s edition of EIP features 176 full-colored pages, a matte-laminated hard cover, and an expandable back pocket for receipts and cards safekeeping. Aside from its striking cover, EIP contains monthly dividers with motivational quotes and weekly mantras that will serve as voices of encouragement to always keep the momentum.
The special pages in the EIP planner are also in place to guide users to stay on track of their goals for the course of the year.
Discover your goals and make it achievable with the following pages:
- Vision Board
- Timeline of Goals
- Identifying Intentions and Motivations
- How to Measure Success
- Positive Poster
- Life Achievements
- No-Edit list
- Priority List
- Reward Checklist
- Things I’m Grateful For
- Obstacles and Mistakes, and
- Promise for Next Year
Monthly Dividers and Monthly Calendar – Inspirational quotes help propel you towards your goals
Weekly Layout – Prioritize your tasks in vertical weekly spreads and be encouraged by the motivational quotes each week
Special Pages – A variety of workbook pages guide you to stay on top of your goals for the course of the year. Each page lets you set and sustain your goals with momentum throughout the year
This year, Everything Is Possible wants you to create the momentum you need in life to achieve infinite possibilities. Get it now for Php598 at all leading bookstores nationwide or visit us at ilovebdj.com.
FOCUS JOURNAL – Php498
It’s so funny that I feel that each kind of planner this year from Viviamo was meant for me! haha! Next up in the list of the planners that they have is the Focus Planner. The 2019 Focus Journal was designed to help users look past the noise, and find clarity and peace. With all of the noise and chaos, it’s sometimes hard to listen to your thoughts and heart and to find direction.
Featuring 176 full colored pages bound in a matte laminated hardcover, Focus Journal allows you to surrender your thoughts and worries on paper and align to your spirit’s purpose and desires. Focus Journal features 12 monthly dividers filled with power words and suggested activities to help you handle your thoughts with ease. It also comes with special activity pages such as Monthly Check-up and Year-End Reflections so you can mindfully evaluate accomplishments and learnings, and to maintain focus for the course of the year and the next.
Monthly Dividers -Power words and suggested activities help you handle your thoughts with ease. Monthly Calendar and Weekly Layout -Have enough space for planning out your whole year Special Pages – Activity pages to help you mindfully evaluate accomplishments and learnings
ESSENTIALS PLANNER -Php380
This planner is the perfect gift for the practical, straight to the point kind of loved one or friend. I actually love this, too. I love that the simplicity of the 2019 Essentials Planner is what captivates you. This planner comes in two sleek (2) cover designs–Classic and Pattern– both with gold foil stamping. The planner contains 144 pages with dotted weekly pages ideal for bullet journaling, as well as creative journaling.
Monthly Calendar and Weekly Layout – Have the freedom in planning or unleashing your creativity with spacious dotted spaces and a minimalist layout
Whether you’re a first-time planner user or not, the Essentials Planner can be your planner of choice this 2019. Get it today for Php380 at all leading bookstores nationwide or visit us at ilovebdj.com.
BDJ PETIT PLANNER – Php350
The BDJ Petit Planner comes in two styles—Purple and Pastel—both with zippered plastic covers that can be an instant pocket or a secondary wallet for your cards, bills, and receipts.
Get the functionality of the regular-sized BDJ planner in a pint-sized version with the BDJ Petit Planner.
Monthly Calendar and Weekly Layout – Write down quick notes, random thoughts, or simple inspiring ideas
Special Pages – Simple pages for making your own lists or goals
The other products that I love are…
- QUEST JOURNAL TRAVEL at Php480
- ESSENTIALS NOTEBOOK — Php240
Even if I appreciate and use automation and gadgets to make my life easier, I still love writing with a pen and paper. These two products are a staple in my backpack. I use my Essentials Notebook to write down ideas, plans, etc. I use my quest journal for meetings and for bullet journaling! So many tools, right?
Aside from the Belle De Jour Planner 2019, the planners mentioned here and the other products that I use, there are more products that you may want to check out from Viviamo. Please visit http://ilovebdj.com
I remember going to a parent-teachers meeting in Zeeka’s school. They asked us, parents, what our parenting objectives are. My husband and I shared that we want Zeeka to be an independent and confident adult in the future, capable of making her own decisions. We want her to learn and eventually exhibit the values that we believe in.
I think every parent wants to raise independent learners. I know we want our kids to grow and thrive so they could live the life they want.
The demand for problem-solving and critical thinking skills are much higher today than it was before. Because of new discoveries and innovations in technology, new businesses and careers are required to fill the gap. That’s why I try to give Zeeka as much support and opportunities as I can while she’s growing up.
So I did a quick research to know what skills and traits one should have to be called an independent learner and here’s what I found.
Characteristics of an Independent Learner
– Independent learners are naturally curious and explorative of their surroundings. They love learning from different angles and approaches
– Independent learners are motivated by personal goals they set for themselves.
– Independent learners know how to evaluate themselves fairly.
– Independent learners are responsible and remain accountable for their tasks. They also do it out of need without anyone telling them what to do.
– Independent learners are critical thinkers who examine possibilities and come up with multiple solutions to a problem
– Independent learners also have an uncanny way of learning. They read, visualize, or kinaesthetically instruct themselves and require little or no instructions from adults.
– Independent learners are also persistent. They don’t give up easily even if the tasks seem impossible.
So how do we raise our kids to be independent learners? Here are some tips
1. Build their confidence.
Self-esteem is a characteristic of an independent learner that you can nurture through acceptance, support, and love.
As parents, you need to recognize your kid’s talents and give praise when it is due. But be sure to be realistic with the praise and not let it get to their heads.
It’s also important to let them know it’s ok to be silly at times and not to take yourself too seriously.
Let kids experience failure so they know it’s part of the process. Kids need to understand that every mistake can be turned into an opportunity to learn from. What’s important is how they are willing to adapt and make necessary changes to correct their mistakes.
2. Create opportunities for independence.
I have the tendency to look at my little girl as if she’s always going to be my baby. I guess that’s just normal for every parent.
I mean, kids do grow up too fast. And I’m also so lucky to get to witness Zeeka grow up before my eyes.
But I also know that I won’t always be there to help her. So I try as much as I could to present her with opportunities where she can learn on her own.
I give her small tasks at home that she can do by herself, like packing her toys away or choosing what to wear for the day. I also ask her to help around the house. Even if we have a helper, I let her set up our table when it’s time to eat. I also require her to eat by herself.
These might menial, but it helps strengthen her motor skills and build her character. It also makes her aware of what responsibilities are and gives her a sense of accomplishment every time she completes a task.
3. Nurture your child’s interests and help them set realistic goals.
My little Zeeka is quite a performer. She can be shy and timid at first, but when she gets her groove on she can be such a ball of energy.
She loves being in front of the camera. She even told me she wanted to have her own talk show someday, like Ellen.
Here she is doing her version of Gal Gadot’s Wonder Woman.
Here she is looking so kikay when we visited Lady Kitty’s house at Sanrio Puro Land.
That’s why I look for different events and workshops where she can showcase her talents. Last summer, I enrolled her in a dance camp for kids and she absolutely loved it! She even has her own Youtube channel where she gets to talk about her toys, makeup, and other things she loves.
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4. Don’t interrupt.
Kids learn things best when they figure it out on their own. Sometimes, their methods may not be what we expect. And as adults, we also need to let them be and learn how to deal with it.
Case in point.
If kids ask for opportunities to help or work on their own, don’t interrupt. But make sure to be there when they need some guidance. Don’t dismiss them or ignore them when they have questions.
It also helps to have a “no spoon-feeding rule” at home. In case they can’t figure it out, you can point them in the right direction. What’s more important is their desire to give things a try.
5. Encourage the love of books and math.
Reading books introduce us to different concepts and ideas. And in turn, it also feeds our minds and makes us more creative. It also expands our vocabulary, improves our communication skills and our memory.
Reading also enriches our analytical skills and enhances our decision-making. It also stimulates our mental capacities and improves focus and concentration.
Much like reading, Mathematics is a mental exercise that helps develop critical thinking skills and independent learning. It is all about making connections and seeing patterns and builds our concrete and abstract thinking abilities.
Research shows that Mathematics trains the brains to see connections and build neural pathways that increase the brain’s power.
Here are some of the brain’s response when doing Maths according to Creation.com:
- It creates the basis for systemic thinking
- Develops analysis and problem-solving skills
- Helps build critical sequencing skills that help one arrive at accurate results or logical conclusions
- Promotes cautious thinking through deciphering complex math problems to arrive at an accurate answer.
- Learning to integrate different principles by a trial and error basis to come to a logical conclusion
One way to build your kid’s independence is to enrol them in Math enrichment programs such as S.A.M. Singapore Math.
Seriously Addictive Mathematics Philippines or S.A.M. makes it fun and easy for kids to learn Math. Students get to learn Mathematics through play, using toys, tools, and manipulatives. This makes it easy for students, especially the younger ones, to understand mathematical concepts and increases their comprehension levels.
You can get to know more about S.A.M. Singapore Math here. SAM Singapore Math: What You Need to Know About
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The thing about how to price freelance services is that it is so complicated. How do you price your own time, effort and expertise? How do we price fairly so as not to devalue ourselves or over-charge our clients?
I honestly think that I don’t have the “right” answer to this question, but what I can share with you today is how I do it for my own freelancing services.
The Basics of Pricing
One of the most common questions is, “What should I consider in pricing my freelancing gig?” The answer to this depends on the (1) services you provide, (2) the market or customers that you want to attract, and (3) your target duration for the engagement or for how long you will do it.
As a freelancer, you can consider two approaches: B2C and the B2B approach. The B2C approach is the business to consumer approach where you offer your services to individuals. The other approach is the business to business or B2B approach where you offer your services to businesses and large corporations (sometimes called “enterprise” services / offerings).
These two approaches matter, because of the costs per conversion (for this specific article, a conversion is a client that avails your services) will certainly be different for each approach.
4 Things to Consider on How to Price Freelance Services
#1 Check on what method you’d like to use after identifying your customer or the market that you want to tap.
There are two kinds of pricing methods that you can use:
One is the cost-plus pricing.
In this process, you will first try to figure out the basic or the total cost of your service while considering your time and the amount or weight of work. Then, after having a total cost price, you may now add a certain percentage which will serve as your profit.
I personally look at the total variable costs and top up a percentage on the total variable costs. Then, I come up with a floor price and a ceiling price for reference.
Most of the tools that we use as freelancers are online, Software-as-a-Service products. I usually use my PayPal account to pay for these services. This allows me to conveniently track my online expenses. This helps me collate all of my costs easily.
If you don’t have a PayPal account yet, you can click on this link to sign up: http://bit.ly/GA_O_PayPalSignUp
Usually, for the B2B approach, you can use a more value-based pricing strategy. This means that you need to look at the value that you can give to the customer, and then without forgetting your costs, come up with a price that you feel best “quantifies” the value that you can give.
No matter what strategy you use, what matters most is that you give justice to whatever the client is paying for you to do.
Consider your monthly budget and try to figure out how many hours you will have to work to achieve that budget. By doing this, you can avoid overpricing.
#2 Check on the current Market Price for services like yours.
Surf the net and research on the price of your competitor’s services.
It would be much better if you will come up with a spreadsheet and list down all the freelancers, services and prices you’ve seen. From there, try to identify the value or set of values that you can give that your competitors can’t (unique value proposition). Check on how much value this can give the customer, try to again “quantify” it, and then see what an appropriate price will be given its uniqueness.
Pro tip: You may charge higher or lower than your competitors and it’s perfectly fine! Your pricing will depend on the value that you bring and on how efficiently you run your freelancing business.
#3 There’s no harm in asking your Client for a Budget
You can also ask the client about his/her allotted budget if you’re unsure of how to price freelance services. Then, go through the steps I indicated above.
See if that budget is something that you can work with. Also, money is not the only thing that matters. If you see that servicing this customer will get you more clients in the future, or if you think this will be a good addition to your portfolio, then go ahead and grab the deal.
#4 Don’t be Afraid to Negotiate
As a freelancer, you need to learn how to face and deal with clients. This career entails you mastering the art of negotiation, and also, knowing how to deal with rejection.
There will also be some clients who will ask for lower rates. Some may even ask you why you’re charging higher when your previous work required much less pay.
You need to know your worth for you to come up with a fair price for you and your client. And to do that, you need to have an estimated target income. This way, you can estimate how many clients you need to achieve that goal.
Instead of becoming defensive or triggered, it is best to focus on creating a relationship with your client first. Make sure you make them feel that you’re genuinely interested in their business and enthusiastic about working with them.
In closing for How to Price Freelance Services…
Remember, it’s the quality of clients that count more than the quantity. So focus on the positive and keep on connecting with potential clients.
Also, always have a clear view of your cash flow. At the end of the day, your net income will be based on how much you earn less how much you spend.
Paypal also has a feature that gives you valuable insights on your income and expenses. With Reports, you get to see your average monthly income and other financial reports. This will help you keep track of your earnings and see if you’re reaching your target amounts.
Here is how you pull reports on PayPal:
Tracking your financial reports will also give you a glimpse of which acquisition strategies to use. If you’re doing the same thing and getting the same results, then it’s time to up the ante and change strategies. Then take note of which strategies work and then bank on them.
Learning how to price freelance services can be tricky at first.
But trust me, once you’ve learned and implemented the process and the strategies above, it will be a ride in the park. Good luck in coming up with prices for your services and if you need anything from me, just let me know in the comments section below.