Reality Check

Here I go again with random thoughts. There are just days like these that make you think. There are just moments like this that shake you and make you realize how off tangent your life is. I always try to be positive, but there are moments when you have to admit that life isn’t perfect and maybe things will never be perfect. Maybe there is no such thing as perfect.

Why do we strive for perfection? Why do we dream of a better life, a better job, a better business, a better marriage, a better figure, better health, a better bank account, etc.? Are these really things that we need to have or are we presented with a standard that we need to attain or at least fulfill? It gets so stressful sometimes. Sometimes, I wonder if people are really what they seem. I wonder if they are true or are just pretending to be something to someone to carry on the show. I wonder if anything in this world is real.

That brings me to the point of reality. What is REAL? Is something real when you see it? We see pictures of happy people on Instagram, Facebook and should we automatically think that they live happy lives? Is that real? If it’s something that you don’t see, such as love or sacrifice or friendship, isn’t that real, too? I just don’t think we’ll ever know if something is real, unless we really try to find out ourselves.

For friends and family, they know that I overthink things sometimes. I do think though that it’s good to do so at times. It makes me really check on myself. Sometimes, I feel tired, and now I know that it’s not only because of the multiple tasks that I have to do. It’s because I strive to be perfect in all aspects of my life. I strive to be the perfect wife to my husband. I strive to be the perfect mom for my daughter. I strive to be the perfect friend. I strive to be the perfect mentor. I strive to be the perfect boss. I strive to be the perfect Ginger. And today, It just hit me once again and I realized that all of these are just fantasies and that no one can be perfect. No one can be the best at everything.

Today, I looked at my daughter and I admire her. I admire her for the strength of character that she possesses. She’s very confident and she knows what she wants. Although she’s just two years old, I think she’ll be stronger than I am. I am thinking that I must be doing something right.

At least, I know that this is real.


  1. August 19, 2015 / 7:31 pm

    Reality can be very tough at times so maybe this is why many people resort to pretention; it can be very overwhelming and not everyone are able to grasp it fully.

    Just like you, I tend to overthink too. Sometimes it brings me good, most of the time though it makes me depressed. I guess it would help us overthinkers if we remember that sometimes living by faith and not by sight is not at all that bad.

    Oh well. I am overthinking again.

    Anyway, God bless you Ma’am!

    • August 20, 2015 / 8:23 am

      Hi Rhea! I like what you said about living by faith 🙂 we just need to believe! God bless you too!

  2. August 19, 2015 / 9:19 pm

    This post made me think. Not really sure what’s my real for me right now.
    I badly need some time for soul searching.

    • August 20, 2015 / 8:25 am

      Hi Clarice! I take normally take time off to meditate, too. One of my mentors used to say that having time for yourself is crucial. I guess we all need stability in this shaky world 🙂

  3. August 20, 2015 / 1:26 am

    i used to get envious on people showing off on social media, minsan bitter pa and think/judge agad na fake cla. pero nag iba perspective ko nung napanood ko yung video ni michelle phan regarding social media. minsan ung iba ang gusto lang ipakita sa ig/fb eh yung mga happy moments nila (parang resume – good points ang hina-highlight and no room for your liabilities), mga tipong galit/ayaw sa mga nagpaparinig/away sa timeline nila or ung “dumping dirty laundry on public”. yung may pinagdadaanan din and back reading their posts makes them happy? ganun kasi ako minsan.

    actually, just like u mommy G, I over think things lalo na nung naging mommy ako. not healthy na nga eh. depressing na minsan feeling ko magkaka-phobia naq! kaya i started reaching out for positivity, looking on the brighter things in life just like Phil in the Lucky Smells Lumbermill.

    nakahelp din sakin ung article that i read a couple of years back about siblings rivalry particularly sa mga girls. yung isa brainy, ung isa maganda. straight, kulot. nag iinggitan sa isa’t isa kulang na lang mag switch sila. dapat flip the table, and think that you are not enemies, kapatid mo yan. youre on the same team, same both. kahihiyan nia, kahihiyan ng family nio. achievements nia, achievements mo. 🙂

    pagfeeling ko show off ung friend ko sa fb, i stop, breath and pretend that he/she is a sibling and possibly like pa nga their post (if im into it, which surprise me and them to the point that we’re getting warm again w/each other) or (disclaimer) ignore pag tinopak, unfollowed. :))

    sorry for rumbling. matagal nang incoherent ang train of thoughts q. and i swear im a silent reader/follower. ngaun lang ako nagcomment, mahaba pa. baka po dahil sa cake na nakain ko.

    God bless. 🙂

    • August 20, 2015 / 8:29 am

      Haha! Thank you for taking time out to comment, Gerilen! 🙂 Nakakatuwa naman. Hindi naman ata yan sa cake na kinain mo! 🙂 haha! I love how you turn negative feelings into something positive. Let’s surround ourselves with positive people. 🙂 I hope to see you again soon ha! Let’s have coffee soon!

      • August 20, 2015 / 12:17 pm

        to add more, mas ok pa na happy pa-sosyal ang mga posts sa timeline natin kesa war freaks pabebe, ung mga tipong walang paki kasi facebook daw nila un. unfriend/unfollow/hide agad un!

        speaking of turning negative feelings into something positive, kahapon nabasag ni clyde ang kilay ko, i mean my compact eyebrow makeup. xempre, tntgan ko xa, magagalit sana ako (kc re3medyohn ko ang kilay ko or worse, go as is) pero nakakatuwa ung reaction nia. facial expression nia screaming “Uh-Oh, ooops, sorry!”. deep sigh na lang, and told him not to touch mommy’s things. hnd ko na bi-nig deal (nakakawarts pala maging magagalitin) wala man akong kilay, natuwa naman ako sa (reaction) kania.

        ahaha! cge po, masarap ang matamis na cake sa mapait na kape.

  4. August 20, 2015 / 1:29 am

    sorry po for spamming. :))

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