How to Make your New Year’s Resolutions Work

Every year, we speak of resolutions that we want to fulfil and accomplish. My 5 year old daughter whispered to me yesterday, and asked me if I needed help with anything. I said that she can help me with the household chores, and then I asked her why she asked me. She said, “My New Year’s resolution is to help people.”

I had no doubt in my mind that she could fulfil it.

Then I thought about what made me so sure that she could. Why do most of us fail at fulfilling our New Year’s Resolutions? How can me make sure that we keep our commitments.

Here are some insights about resolutions that I can share with you:

Make sure that your resolutions are commitments that you can keep. It’s good to shoot for the moon and land among the stars, but still make sure that that “moon” is still within reach.

So when making a resolution, think about it really well and check if you can really do it. If it’s a habit that you want to form, check and see if you can actually do it at the number of times you want to do it and if you have enough time to do it. If it’s a financial goal, see if you have means, resources and capabilities to come up with the amount that you want.

Look at New Year’s Resolutions as a way for you to form habits. In forming habits, the most difficult part is really the first 21 days or the first month.

Make it easy for yourself to stick to your resolutions. Create reminders for yourself. Set aside time that when you can do the things that you need to do. In my case, one of my resolutions is to try to Blog / Vlog as often as possible. I love doing these things, so what I did was really to set aside time to do these two things. I blocked off my calendar (a set time in Google Calendar) just to do these things.

Another thing you can do is write down on sticky notes reminders that you can post in different locations in your house or in your office. It helps to see these reminders frequently!

The most important thing (like any other goal in your life) about resolutions is to rise up and try again in case you fail. Since it’s about conditioning your mind and body to follow a habit, there will be times when it will be difficult.

Just keep on trying and eventually, you’ll be able to keep your resolution and keep these new habits.

How about you? Do you have a list of resolutions that you intend to keep? Share it with me! Please use #GInspiration #MommyGinger

‘Til next time!

Mommy Ginger

When the Hum Stops

It’s funny that someway, somehow, life gives you something right at the perfect moment. It is as if for some reason, when you’re about to give up and every thing seems to be hopeless and meaningless, the world gives you something — something that inspires you and nudges and pushes you back right on track. That something may be a call from a friend, a kiss from a loved one, a passage from the Bible, a story form a stranger that you just met, a hug, and that something ultimately makes you feel alive and whole again.

That something for me was this Ted Talks video from my idol Shonda Rhimes. For those who don’t know her, Shonda Rhimes is the “titan” behind all of my favorite shows like Grey’s Anatomy, How to Get Away with Murder and Scandal. I suggest that you watch her in this talk from TED.

I woke up, feeling better than I did last night. Last night, I had tummy cramps every so often and each cramp left a trace of pain that would build up and build up and build up. I found out I had GERD (Gastroesophageal reflux disease). And the funny thing about having it is that I was not surprised it happened. When I work, I lose track of time. I forget to eat, but surprisingly, I don’t forget to to drink coffee. I think of coffee as food and as something that keeps me going and it keeps me sharp. This is actually how I live and I’m not proud of it. I know that this kind of lifestyle isn’t healthy and I know i’m just waiting for attacks of pain, just like this one.

“When I’m hard at work, when I’m deep in it, there is no other feeling. For me, my work is at all times building a nation out of thin air. It is manning the troops. It is painting a canvas. It is hitting every high note. It is running a marathon. It is being Beyoncé. And it is all of those things at the same time. I love working. It is creative and mechanical and exhausting and exhilarating and hilarious and disturbing and clinical and maternal and cruel and judicious, and what makes it all so good is the hum. There is some kind of shift inside me when the work gets good. A hum begins in my brain, and it grows and it grows and that hum sounds like the open road, and I could drive it forever. And a lot of people, when I try to explain the hum, they assume that I’m talking about the writing, that my writing brings me joy. And don’t get me wrong, it does. But the hum — it wasn’t until I started making television that I started working, working and making and building and creating and collaborating, that I discovered this thing, this buzz, this rush, this hum. The hum is more than writing. The hum is action and activity. The hum is a drug. The hum is music. The hum is light and air. The hum is God’s whisper right in my ear. And when you have a hum like that, you can’t help but strive for greatness. That feeling, you can’t help but strive for greatness at any cost. That’s called the hum. Or, maybe it’s called being a workaholic.” – Shonda Rhimes

Going back to that something that comes at the perfect moment, when you least expect it, it happened just about 30 minutes ago. I’m here lying on my bed, because this stupid pain on my tummy keeps bothering me. I know i’m sleepy so I try to watch a a few movies on Netflix, but nothing catches my attention. I decide to open TED instead to watch videos (wooohoo! This is my idea of fun!) and the one that catches my attention is obviously this video of Shonda Rhimes, my ultimate idol (yes, I know, I’ve said that). I have admired her for the longest time and when I saw the title of her talk, “My year of saying yes to everything”, I wanted to watch it immediately. I thought she was going to talk about how saying yes to everything gave her this successful career and status that she has, but it was about saying “yes” to playing with her child for 15 minutes.

After watching the video, I cried. I kept on saying “Damn, you Shonda! You’re just amazing! I hate you” over and over again. I hated her because she hit me right on the mark. I hated her because she made me feel better; I felt like someone understood how I was feeling.

The honest truth is that I love working. I love working, and at times I think I’m wonderful, noble, admirable, impressive, but sometimes, I think i’m irresponsible, unreasonable, pathetic and pitiful. My life has become unbalanced. This annoying pain in my tummy makes that evident. I don’t know how to go out on dates anymore with my husband, as I constantly need to check my phone. I don’t know how to play with my daughter, as I constantly think of the next business strategy that I need to map out while building lego blocks. Planning my daughter’s birthday party has become an event with a matching keynote presentation that I planned to present to her teachers. Things that can be turned into a business excite me now over things that I used to love, like new restaurant finds, new flavors of ice cream, a new dress, etc.

Then there came a time during the past few months when the hum stopped for me. I was overworked, depressed all of the time, tired, frustrated, angry a lot of times. And now I know that it was because, I lost that inspiration — I couldn’t hear that “hum”.  I was so focused in working my ass off that I forgot to “play”.

I have forgotten how it is to live and appreciate the seemingly mundane things in life. I have set aside going out on dates with the husband, playing with my daughter, going out on night outs with my friends, watching movies, going on ME-time shopping sprees, etc. I have forgotten that these simple things but are really important and it’s what makes living fun and life worth living.

So, thank you, Shonda Rhimes, for showing me that working is okay, for as long as I inject “play” time. Thank you for reminding me that work hum becomes more meaningful if mixed with play hum and love hum.  Thank you for singing out load to make me hear that hum again.

There is no such thing as Inspiration

There is no such thing as inspiration.

Okay, what I meant was you can’t just sit while drinking your coffee and pray that you suddenly get that next brilliant business idea out of nowhere. Inspiration requires work, too. But what probably makes it different is the lack of structure to achieve something structured.

What do I mean? Let me put some structure into finding inspiration.


First of all, look for something that puts you in a good mood. This is probably what we mean by identifying people who inspire us or finding that spot where your ideas usually run free. Another thing is doodling. I have found that doodling makes me happy, which is a solid platform that I could take off from. Doodling, that particular spot or that person makes you feel happy, and when you’re in a good mood, it is easier to think of new ideas.

Next is — do something. Yes, anything. Some things that you can do is write anything down. Write about the people that you see in that coffee shop. Write about plans this year. Write about dreams and wishes. Listen to podcasts, music, recordings. Watch videos. Just do something. This will tickle your brain to think of new things or to probably focus on one thing that will lead to another idea, then to another.

During this process of finding inspiration, keep an open mind. Anyway, these are just thoughts. Don’t shut down your thoughts first (especially when you haven’t even validated them yet). Hey, thinking about impossible things may lead to great ideas and possibilities.

I hope that this article placed you in a good mood. I hope it inspired you enough. Now, jump to the next idea!

When God Closes a Door, He opens a Window…

Do you ever encounter days when you think nothing seems to be going right? Days when you just want to sit down and cry. I encounter those days, too, and these days suck. Do you want to know what I do during days like these? I play this music.

When GOD closes a door

When doubts and disappointments hide the morning sun
When all my dreams have ended, all my song are sung,
his spirit soars within me, every doubt is gone,
I see a new horizon, and sing a brand new song. . .
For (all: ooh. . .ahh. . .) in this perfect timing, up ahead the light is shining
and I know the dawn will be arriving very soon
When God closes the door he opens a window, (girls) a window
He opens a window so I can see
He’s working it out
the very best for (The very best for me) me
He opens a window just just for me
In every road I travel (girls: ooh. . .) leads back to where I’ve been
When (boys: ahh. . .) fears about tomorrow settle deep within
He gives me new direction and takes the fears away
He opens up the future and brings a brand new day
New day . . .
For (ooh. .ahh. .) in this perfect timing up ahead the light is shining
and I know the dawn will be arriving very soon
When God closes the door he opens a window(a window)
He opens a window so I can see
He’s working it out the very best for (The very best for me) me
He opens a window just for me
For (ooh. .ahh .) in this perfect timing up ahead the light is shining
and I know the dawn will be arriving very soon
When God closes the door he opens a window (a window)
He opens a window so I can see
He’s working it out the very best for me
Now I know he’ll a window just. . for. . me. . .

This song is from Joseph the Dreamer, a musical / play. Seriously, it helps me get through difficult times. I feel good after listening to this song.

Another thing that get’s me through these times is looking for the thing or that person who inspires me. In my case, it’s really spending more time with my daughter. My yaya went on vacation and for the past few days, I’ve been focusing on mommy duties. I didn’t get to work that much, but it was a welcome break. We got to spend more time together. I brought her to events, we ate popcorn together, we took selfies, we went window shopping, we shopped, etc. Haha!

My inspiration!

My inspiration!

Enough about my story. What I really wanted to say is that there are so many beautiful people, things, moments in your life. Try to focus on these things and it will motivate you to go on — to shine brighter than you actually did! IF you need a shoulder to cry on or you just want a coffee buddy, just message me and we can have coffee. This is the reason why we created Beauty Biz Bliss. We know that women like us feel weak and vulnerable sometimes and we just need the support of other women — women who know exactly how you feel ( We will be holding gatherings next year so that we can come together and talk about things and just have REAL conversations.

Hope this post helped you in anyway! Sorry if this is just a short post. I just wanted to tell you that EVERYTHING WILL BE OKAY!