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Life Lesson #4: Distinguishing Needs vs. Wants

My Dear Zeeka,

I came across a really expensive ‘educational’ thing that I wanted to buy for you. I told your dad that I wanted to buy them, but all I got was a look of disbelief and a big NO. I knew though that it was a pretty irrational purchase. I could actually get something of the same kind for less.

There are things in life, baby, that you have to forgo since these are mere wants and not needs. Learn to know the difference early on. Learn that there are things that you don’t really need. Even if you think that it will make you happy, it will be a superficial happiness that you will feel.

Getting just the essentials and having just the basics ‘in life’ will make you a thousand fold genuinely happier. Sometimes, wanting causes complications and just makes your life more miserable.

Learn to love what you have and be contented with it. Strive, but not for luxury or wants, but strive to provide your family and your future children with the basics like daily sustenance, education, a comfortable life, love and care. Daily hugs and kisses far outweigh Ipads and gadgets!

Love Lots,

Mommy Ginger

Mommy Ginger

Life Lesson #3: Learn to Love Yourself

Dearest Zeeka,

In the stillness of the morning, I look at you. I wonder how anyone or anything can be so perfect. I touch your flawless skin, and even while sleeping, you give me than cute little grin.

I wonder what it is you’re thinking of. I wonder if you see me, your Mommy. I wonder if you see Daddy. I wonder if you see and feel the love that we both have for you.

My Zeeka's First Bath

My Zeeka’s First Bath

We just watched a movie. The guy in the movie had two children and they were both girls. I could very much relate to the movie, since it showed the relationship that the mommy and daddy had with their two girls. It brought me to think about you, Zeeka — your future and how you would be to us your mommy and daddy.

When you grow older, I know that you will have a mind of your own. You will form your own thoughts and ideas about people, things and even yourself. As early as now, I want you to know that you are perfect. You are perfect since God created you and He gave you to us. You are our precious gift from God.

I want you to learn how to love and appreciate yourself. I know that there will be times that you may think differently, especially at times when the world seems to be against you. Remember that to us, the people who love you, you are the most beautiful and talented girl in the world.

Also, never doubt your capabilities. If at first you fail at what you do, rise up and try again. There is nothing wrong with failing. Failing and falling are steps on the ‘success’ ladder. Mommy and Daddy also experience failure and defeat (until now), but this doesn’t make you less of a person. Also, remember that we will always be here for you during these trying times. Be confident and never forget to pray that you may overcome all of these obstacles.

Zeeka, my wish for you is that you learn to love yourself. That love overflows. By loving yourself, you get to love others and have enough courage and strength to show others that you love them.

We love you!

Mommy Ginger

Mommy Ginger

Life Lessons for my Children: Life Lesson # 2 – Love for God & Family

Dear Zeeka,

It’s 8:56 in the evening. You’re dad and I had an early dinner at 7:OO pm like we normally do. This time though, daddy did not eat a lot. He’s not feeling well. i think he going to come down with a flu tomorrow. Even when he’s not feeling well, he is always thinking of me. He’s been telling you to take care of mommy by not kicking me too hard.

You’ve been kicking me like crazy today. I think that warm sack that you are in now is getting a little bit uncomfortable for you already. Hush now, little one. A month from now, we will already get to see you.

Daddy always calls out your name. He’s sleeping now, but just before he went to sleep, he called out your name. He said ‘Zeeka, I can’t wait to see you’. Know that even before you were born, we both loved you already and we love you deeply.

Which brings me to my life lesson number two for you. Love God then love your family above anyone or anything else. Nothing compares to the love that we, both mommy and daddy, have for you. I hope that you see that genuine love that daddy and mommy share, and we want you to fell our love, also. We will always be here for you, Zeeka. We always want what’s best for you.

I know that in the future, you may want things and we may not allow you to have them. Sometimes, you may even think that we are unreasonable. We will have our reasons, but again, it is for you. It is because we love you. Believe me when I say that it all boils down to the fact that we love you.

I can’t wait to see you, baby. I can’t wait to hold you. I can’t wait to love you.

Love your mommy,

Mommy Ginger

Mommy Ginger

Life Lessons for my Children: Life Lesson # 1 – Give Love Unconditionally

I am bursting with emotions right now (ashamed to say that these are negative though) and what’s good about me being pregnant now is that I ‘intentionally’ have to control my emotions. I am a very emotional person and that I admit. People will know if I am happy, sad, frustrated, disappointed or angry (which I rarely am). It’s very hard for me to keep my feelings. But now that I will have a daughter soon, I know that I have to always be on the look out for that and control my feelings.

The good thing about feeling negative emotions though is that it helps me think and contemplate on life lessons that I want to share with my Children in the future. I, then thought of Phil Dunphy’s “Phil’s-osophy” Words of Wisdom, and this makes me grin a little. I’m sure those of you who are avid fans of Modern Family will know of this. Some of the advice that he give to his children are:
– Always look people in the eye, even if they’re blind. Just say, I’m looking you in the eye.
– If you get pulled over for speeding, tell the policeman your spouse has diarrhea.
– The most amazing things that can happen to a human being will happen to you if you just lower your expectations

He’s so funny! Anyway, so I thought of just randomly giving life lessons to my children that I hope that they will learn from in the future. Some of you may agree or disagree with my thoughts, but as a parent, these are the lessons that I want my child to get from me and her dad.

Unconditional Love

Life Lesson #1 – Give Love Unconditionally

Dear Zeeka,
As your mom, I want what’s best for you and sometimes or even oftentimes (even if you are already an adult), I want to give you things, gifts or even give you acts of service that you don’t actually ask for. Let me tell you this. I do not expect you to say thank you nor hug me nor kiss me nor write me a thank you note. Just seeing that you are happy will be enough for me. If you do give me 1, 2 or 3 of the things above in return, I will be so ecstatic, but this is not required of you! I repeat… this is NOT REQUIRED.

This is what giving love unconditionally means. If you do something special for someone else or if you give someone a gift to make them happy or happi-er without expecting something in return, then that is love. I will be so proud of you for doing such a good thing.

You will notice that in this world, a lot of people give because they expect something in return. This should not be the case.

Do not give love or do not do any acts of service and kindness if your main goal is to expect something in return. That good deed will be pointless. Do it because you care for the other person. Do it because it feels right. Do it because you want to do it. Do it because you love.

Love,

Mommy Ginger

Mommy Ginger