All my Flaws and Imperfections

I’m in this cafe that is really comforting for some reason. The voices of other people seem to drown out voices in my head. There are a lot of days and today was one of the shittiest days I have ever had (I apologize for using that term, but I don’t know how else I could describe it). The shittiest days start out really great and perfect that it makes a bad thing seem so huge and unbearable — and shitty.

People think that it’s easy to destroy someone’s life through social media. It is, actually. It is easy to do especially when the person’s a faker. With this, I will give you the truth and the whole truth about me. That way, you, my readers know me and I have nothing to hide.

The truth is i’m not perfect and I have a lot of flaws. Yup, I’m human (surprise, surprise!).

My number one flaw is that I dream big and strive so much. I work so hard to achieve goals that I think would be good for my family, but I stress myself and I allot a lot of time working and less time taking care of myself and my family. In the process, I doubt myself and think if I really made the right choice and decision. Yes, that’s a flaw and it makes me feel like a crazy person. It makes me feel incompetent, sad and lonely. It makes me feel that I’m probably not living the life that was meant for me.

We all glorify people who chase their dreams — those who turn things into unimaginable realities and those who are doing what they love. But when you become a wife and more so, a mom, it’s doubly hard to do so. You have to consider a lot of things and make decisions based on how it will affect your spouse, your child and your family. Will it affect them in anyway? Will they be happy when you decide a certain way? Will they be disappointed? Will you just choose a path that will be better for them and let go of your dreams? Will you continue to chase dreams and seem like the shitty mommy and wife that you will obviously be to a lot of people? Will you just lie and say that you’re happy with your life and just go with the flow and continue to feel empty inside? Will the decision that you make truly make you happy? Is this what you really want out of life?

You have to make tough choices and tough decisions. People think that being a woman in business is easy, that we have got it all covered. We just flash our charming smiles, and everyone bows down to your wishes. But it is not like that at all.

You fall in love. You marry. You have a child. You try to make ends meet and help out by chasing those dreams that you know will make everyone happy, and yet, you are condemned for it by everyone.

You are condemned for not having enough time for your child. You are condemned for making decisions that you made with a different intention, which are perceived differently. You are condemned for wishing and dreaming of a life that you want to have, because again, people think that you are not content with what you have now.

I honestly am contemplating if I should publish this, but I just wanted to share my thoughts tonight. I just wanted to share with you that being a woman is hard. Being an adult is hard. ‘Being’ is hard but that’s life.

Women Helping Women

More and more groups are being formed to help and support other women. I love it! I sincerely think that we women need all the support that we can get to achieve our goals and aspirations. I think that instead of harbouring feelings of jealousy, let us pull one another up.

There are two events that I’m really excited about. The first one is the BDJ Women’s Summit. This will be on April 16, this Saturday. The event will be from 10 am to 9 pm and they will have powerful women as speakers.
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KEYNOTE SPEAKER : Women Helping Women
: Amina Rasul-Bernardo (Philippine Centre for Islam & Democracy — Int’l Women’s Advocate)

PLENARY 1 : Boosting Curiosity and Intellectual Discourse
: Ana Santos (Journalist, Women Empowerment advocate)
: Risa Hontiveros (Health and Women Empowerment Advocate)

PLENARY 2 : Working Towards Financial Freedom
: Myrna Padilla (Mynd Dynamic Team – OFW turned Businesswoman)
: Salve Duplito (ANC On the Money Host, Financial Journalist)

PLENARY 3 : Finding the Courage to Lead
: Rep. Leni Robredo (2016 Vice Presidential Candidate)
: Myrza Sison (Editorial Director, Summit Media)

PLENARY 4 : Nurturing Passions to Inspire Good
: Susan Afan (Managing Director, ABS-CBN Foundation, Inc.)
: Jen Santos (General Manager, G-Stuff)

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The other event that I am excited about is the Building a Business out of Passion talk from CEO Moms.

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Manila Workshops is happy to partner with the CEO Moms in spreading the word about this 3 hour talks. The talk will be at MindChamps International Preschool in BGC. Here is the workshop outline:

  • Connect with yourself and discover the things you are most passionate about.
  • Get the right motivation and guidance from a certified life coach on how to turn your passion into a purposeful business.
  • Create a passion board and take it home with you and let it serve as your daily inspiration to become an entrepreneur.
  • Get to know more about start-ups from a venture capitalist, and get insights on how you can possibly develop one yourself.
  • Build a supportive network with like-minded women. Share your fears, concerns and excitement, and encourage one another to success.
  • Continue on and complete the workshop series to get the opportunity to have a constant guide in setting up your business, to launching and sustaining it in the early stages. Learn the most essential aspects in developing one and pin point which needs your attention the most and which aspects shortcuts can be applied to.

Who Should Attend: 

Open to all moms and single ladies who want  to create a business out of passion, learn about tech startups from women in startups and build a supportive network.

The speakers are two powerful women:

Andrea Goseco

Anda is an executive coach who uses a combination of her innate ability to understand people, coaching methods she learned through her coach certification and her business experience working with companies from various industries.  She is able to create effective leaders by using methods that will create positive and lasting change which have a direct impact on business results.

Certified with coaching programs that are based in the U.S., with Career Coach Academy and Coach Training Alliance accredited with International Coach Federation (ICF), she also took certified coach courses in Singapore with Marshall Goldsmith Stakeholder Coaching and Gallup and is now an ACC member of ICF with over 700 hours of coaching experience.

Anda has worked with various industries as an executive coach—banks, telecommunications, real estate, hotels and resorts and shipping.  The companies she has worked with include BDO, Globe Telecom, The Discovery Leisure Company, Rockwell Land, East West Bank, L’Oreal, HSBC, and Philippine Transmarine Carriers (PTC).

Aside from coaching, she also conducts training programs for leaders in organizations. She was also an HR consultant for Carrascal Nickel Corporation (CNC) focused on creating job descriptions and designing a leadership program to improve the overall capability of the organization.

Prior to being an Executive Coach, Anda worked with the HR Training Group of Globe Telecom and also worked as a marketing strategist leading successful brands such as Globe Postpaid and Globe Tattoo, Ambi Pur (Sara Lee Philippines), Tiffany and Co and Metropolitan Museum of Art (Rustan’s), and as Sales Manager with Ayala Land, Inc.

Anda was a columnist for Entrepreneur and was also featured as a business resource for F&B World and Money Sense magazine.

She completed her post college degree in Marketing at De La Salle University.  Anda graduated from college at the University of Asia and the Pacific (UA&P) with a degree in Business Management.

Rina Neoh

Rina Neoh has more than 25 years of experience in both the corporate and entrepreneurial world. Her first real work experience started out at the age of 14 when she served as a shampoo girl in her mother’s salon, a job that allowed her to learn the rudiments of small business development and the importance of understanding the human side of business.

With a solid foundation in B.Sc. (Hons) Computer Science and a keen business sense acquired through an overseas MBA (International Business), Rina has delivered multi-million dollar returns from small business enterprises, which she has incubated, coached, invested in or promoted. She has developed her own expertise in solutions selling, complex tender bids and managing A-list accounts in her early careers, including winning prestigious accounts from the government and private sectors. Rina is also instrumental in two IPOs in Australian Stock Exchange and have executed complex cross border mergers and acquisitions.

Rina has a long track record and proven expertise in strategic marketing, product branding, information systems, business development, venture capital financing, investor relations and high-level business negotiations — skills which she brought to every business she acquired or advised during her long career.

A seasoned executive with an operations and systems perspective, Rina is well known for setting up and developing companies across Asia Pacific, including brick-and-mortar and technology-enabled enterprises. She has a knack for incubating new businesses, finding new markets, creating unique value propositions and creating sustainable revenue streams.

Rina co-founded Mercatus Capital Pte Ltd, a homegrown incubator based in Singapore and a venture accelerator since 2006. Through its angel networks, Mercatus Group provided seed capital to promising new small ventures, with more than 30 startups seeded and incubated in Singapore, Malaysia, Australia, India, China and Hong Kong.

Rina holds strategic management roles, directorships and equities in Mercatus Capital, NEST Capital, Adiaco Advisors, RxR Capital, Synapse Global, Unlimited Brands, Fix Point, IdeasInc and Lattitude33. In addition to managing various companies as director or investor, Rina finds time to serve as business coach and adviser to several business advisory boards, NGOs, University and the Government of Peru, such as Startup Peru, UTAR Malaysia, Lianas Rising, Student Connect, Communi-T, Cherry Blair Foundation, among others.

Rina spends most of her free time advocating “greenfield” businesses, promoting social entrepreneurship, women empowerment and volunteerism work. She is an avid photographer, a curious traveller, and a passionate mountain trekker and wellness practitioner.

If you want to sign up for this talk, CLICK HERE.

Watch out also for the launch of our very own Beauty Biz Bliss coming this May!